"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Lately, I've been trying to stick up (not take non-joking jabs) for myself without trying to be too much of a tight ass. One thing I've run into is when I do talk to a female (seems like less often now since I've been reading this site more and more, although I don't know why) it seems like I'll stop myself from saying certain things because I think it make me sound wimpy.

Is this the wrong state of mind? To me it seems like it might be, because no matter what now days it doesn't seem like I can carry on a conversation with a female past the first 10 or so retorts.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm sure that is it.

I have hobbies: music, track.

I have friends: not the coolest guys, but I feel I fit with them pretty damn well.

I have humor.

Thing that stops me dead though is just plain talking to females. I want to do it more, but in a classroom setting I know it to be akward to just go up to a girl I might be interested in and start talking (wouldn't be bad if the class was moving around, etc. but most of the time we're confined to our desks). Maybe I should start imagining they have a penis?
 
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itishe said:
Maybe I should start imagining they have a penis?
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Hey dude, whatever turns you on. ;)

Just joking. Yeah, I know what you mean. If you've already read the bible, you just gotta get out there and start approaching. Try doing the bootcamp. It helps a lot when you have weekly goals for approaching.

The more you do it, the easier it gets.
 
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Mini FR:

There's this one girl I wouldn't mind hanging out with. She's probably a 6 or 7 (not the hottest, nor the hottest commodity in the school dating market, but I can tell damn well she'd be a freak). Anywho, one night she was with her friend who was working at a movie store when I picked up a movie.

They told me they were debating about what my tatoo said (It's in Hebrew, and in my name). ONe believe it was my name, the other believed it was my fathers. Anywho they kept asking me about what it said, but I just kept not answering it. We held a pretty good convo, I didn't act too interested but I kept it going by asking follow-ups and leads.

Fastforward the first day back to school after that Easter weekend she walks up to me in the hallway (we don't talk too often) and we do the generic gretting bull****. Anywho then she asks me what it said again, but I didn't give her a straight answer again:D . This time I acted like I had no idea what she was talking about and that she was weird.

Good to keep them guessing aint it?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It takes practice~~ All you really need is to go and talk to as many women as you can. Trust me/ Just meet them, say HI,smile, date em, joke around, say whatever comes to your mind and eventually it will become natural to talk to women! When u talk to guys do u care if u say something dum?? NO, couse u are used to em, u always around em.. Same shiit with women, you will eventually get used to them/ good luck
 
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So essentially I'm acting as if I would when I'm around a male (just not as gross/crazy)?
 
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I understand how to carry on a conversation, just not the best at implementing.

You listen to what she said, take small bits of information, shoot them back to her in forms of questions/comments, then let her build on and eventually she's talking away until the cows come home.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don't do this though.

Her: I like to study diseases.
You: Do you have a disease?
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haha, sounds like something from Napoleon Dynamite.
 
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Not saying something because you're afraid it'll sound wimpy is the wimpiest thing you can do.:woo:
 
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