You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
damn, how was it?Yes.I was 21.
just curious, age is increase for the overall US population, thought it would be interesting. heard people that lose it later are typically more introverted.No, I was 15. Why aré you asking though?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Stick around here and pay keen attention to certain patterns. Even a complete moron (I doubt you are) won't miss every single subtle hint a woman throws out that she is "DTF RFN!" You'll see opportunities and possibly spot a few on hindsight as you learn more!also, the dating market is so bad right now, its ridiculous. its litreally impossible to find wife material and im in my very very early 20s, scared that ill never find the one. for reference my parents are old and im kind of on a limited timeline when it comes to having kids. considering my lack of experience, i honestly don't know what to do considering this current situation.
Me with my broken English humor, and my brain who learned this as a second language is wondering if it should laugh or feel sorry.My oral virginity, yeah... Losing your penile V Card at age 11 to a woman in her 40s, under less than consensual circumstances, can leave a fella with a misgiving or 3 about chowing down on raw, wet kitty again
At least, that was my experience... Props to you fellas who were inducted into the ways of Eros by a real-life Mrs. Robinson, then walked away psychologically unscathed
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
There are stats showing that there are large numbers of men in America that are still virgins as they approach their 30s. You are correct though, in the 2000s and earlier this would have been incredibly unusual and seen as odd. The difference compared to now is older male virgins are often times relatively normal with regards to looks, behavior, etc. In the past this would have only been seen in men with noticeable deficits in these same parameters.28. That was super late back in the day. Today it’s probably no big deal.
My gf then was a 23 yo drug and alcohol counselor. She was super funny. She was like, “The first step is admitting you have a problem (virginity). The next step is seeing someone like me for help.” lol
That is fing weird, man, wtf. I could see 16 or something kike that but that's crazy if true.My oral virginity, yeah... Losing your penile V Card at age 11 to a woman in her 40s, under less than consensual circumstances, can leave a fella with a misgiving or 3 about chowing down on raw, wet kitty again
At least, that was my experience... Props to you fellas who were inducted into the ways of Eros by a real-life Mrs. Robinson, then walked away psychologically unscathed
It is trueThat is fing weird, man, wtf. I could see 16 or something kike that but that's crazy if true.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.