You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
not feeling fear does not equal alphaNickBe said:If I am walking down the street with you next to me and a group of guys walk up to us wanting to start a fight. You would probably be scared and try to back out or freeze up or run. I would take control and do what I can to take those guys down, I would probably go as far as killing them if I had too. That is just me, I am not saying its the right thing or even a smart thing to do but it is what I would do. That is what an alpha is the guy that is dominant not the guy that backs down. You can not teach yourself not to fear, it is controlled by your brain in my brain that part is not active in most peoples it is.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
this is fantastic my friend and they are all quite different to my ideas too. very helpful, thanks dude.beastmaster79 said:cold-approaches on hotties. make conversations with random chicks and dudes. learn how people work. practice interacting with people and you will become confident. increase your skills and power. do things that make you afraid. get in shape and work on your posture. take a random acting or dance class or go somewhere where you feel out of place. something that makes you feel funny. soon that **** won't affect you.
When you know you are able to attract and fuuck any woman.if so, at what moment did you know you had achieved your goal of becoming an alpha male?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ummmm yea they do i come back periodically to help my AFC brothers who haven't got there yet...i mean i just got done f*cking last night so i'm just trying to help out the guys who aren't because itz such a beautiful thing..lolz hahaDanelMadr said:Alpha Males dont browse Alpha Males threads. They are doing their Alpha Male stuff. You cant turn to an Alpha Male if you havent strong potential for it already. You can only become a good actor. Doenst mean you cant improve your self by incorporating some traits. But never hope to be the one who will everyone bow to.
"only fools rush in"... a lot of times you don't have to fight. I can stand and laugh at a person and be more alpha than a person who was just insulted by a "dirty look".Interceptor said:An Alpha Male is one who can be entrusted with governing, protecting, and finding solutions to problems.
Thus, the true Alpha male is one who solves problems, NOT creates more.
The Apha Male only fights to protect, really to defend territory, and that could be his mate, family, children, and land.
An Alpha male is the one others turn to for leaderships. They look to him for guidance and answers.
Why?
Because he is the one with the cool,level headedness that is needed for the situation at had. Be it rasiing children, disiplining, solving quarrels, and yes, even fighting.
An Alpha male is dominant because of the traits,and skills he possesses.
These mainly are:
LOVER
PROVIDER
HUNTER
WARRIOR
Granted, he must also be confident, be able to find solutions to problems, be authoritative, and lead others to a solution.
He gains respect by his demeanor, and the traits that he possesses.
People defer to him because he deserves it.
NOT becasue he is a greater and more aggressive a$$hole.
It's not abou tbeing an a$$hole.
It's about not backing down.
It's about facing fear, death, trial, tribulations, and challenges head on.
The Alpha Male does not run away.
He doesn't need to.
He hones huis skills to perfection, and the expertise he possesses exhudes from him.
Alpha MALES have Presence.
It is known.
It is seen.
And it is felt by the others.
He is not aggressive unless he needs to be. He is assertive at all times. He knows how to compromise, because as a leader, he must find some level of compromise that can lead to a Win/Win situation.
He would be considered the tribal or village Elder/Leader.
He would also be able to organize the males for a fighting/raiding, and hunting party.
They would follow him, because they know he knows what he's doing.
He knows where he's going in life. He knows how to maintain discipline. And he is always ready.
Think about those things.
Here's some recommended material and advice:what kind of advice do you guys have?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bonez said:So back to the question....!!!!!
Has anybody BECOME an ALPHA MALE?
NickBe said:If I am walking down the street with you next to me and a group of guys walk up to us wanting to start a fight. You would probably be scared and try to back out or freeze up or run. I would take control and do what I can to take those guys down, I would probably go as far as killing them if I had too. That is just me, I am not saying its the right thing or even a smart thing to do but it is what I would do. That is what an alpha is the guy that is dominant not the guy that backs down. You can not teach yourself not to fear, it is controlled by your brain in my brain that part is not active in most peoples it is.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.