You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Look it up in a dictionary, alpha simply means dominant male. The alpha male is the one who takes charge and is dominant. The point you quotes is weak read below instead....Monkey said:You have no idea what ALPHA is...
Animal Planet. Wonderful way to access true information.NickBe said:About lions the male protects the pride, the female protects the cubs too but if the pride has a male in it it is the males job to protect the entire pride. I do not know where you get your info.
I've never ever seen a Lion walk around picking a fight because he's more "dominant".Most male lions do not travel with a pride and a lot of prides do not travel with male lions so yes in the scenario the female protects. however when a male is around he protects the pride with his life and yes he is the alpha male that is what the term was coined for. Alpha male was used to describe Lions, wolves an other pack animals, the dominant one in the pack the one that protects the pack is the alpha. The alpha is not as you suggest the one that does not need to resort to violence.
This is the part that irked me the most. Tony Soprano is no Alpha. No way, no how. He's a big child who grew older. His mentality is that of a scared child who has to resort to his size and bully his way around. I think you need to actually watch The Sopranos my man. And I would absolutely be the Alpha if I were in your scenario and I'll explain why: Having no fear or empathy makes someone an idiot and a mentally arrested infant. So by your rational if Andre the Giant walked into a room, just by the sheer size of that behemoth, he is the Alpha? Fvck no. Jet Li or Bruce Lee would fvck him up beyond repair and not break a goddamn sweat.Having no fear and no empathy is what makes a person dominant over a person who is controlled by his emotions. You are telling me that you are more of an alpha male than Tony Soprano? If you are in a room alone with Tony Soprano he has a reason to hurt you like for example you disrespected him you would not stand a chance. You would apologies because he is an overbearing psychopath who would kill you without hesitation. In the animal kingdom the male wolf that scares the other male wolf away is the alpha wolf. It is the same with humans the term alpha male means the dominant male. In a room with Tony Soprano you would be the beta because he is dominant you would apologize if you offended him because you would fear him. That makes you the beta.
You guys are misusing the world alpha male. You seem to think it is the witty, suave guy who gets what he wants when he wants. Look, just get a dictionary and find the definition of alpha male. It will tell you that an alpha male is a dominant male. It wont say an alpha is a male who does not need to resort to violence.
Look I do understand what you are saying and I agree with you for the most part all i am saying is the term alpha male is begin misused. Alpha male refers to the dominant male.
This has a ring of truth. Most DJ's have no clue what it is to incorporate Alpha-traits with mature masculine boundaries. This makes one an ALPHA MAN. When he can encompass different points of view and assert his will can he excude confidence like no other and run his life, the way he wants.DJ's do not want to be alpha males they want to be dominant, witty, manly guys who have their pick of any woman in the room. Those are all great qualities to have and that is what this site is about. That is not what an alpha male is though, the term alpha is heavily misused in the seduction industry.
Shouldn't you be popping your pimples or jacking off into a sock? You have absolutely zero clue about life. Here's your first lesson:ElStud said:What's this the 2nd thread you've hijacked? You'd think a 33 year old would have something better to do.
(Not a word about dominance?)[adjective] first in order of importance; "the alpha male in the group of chimpanzees"; "the alpha star in a constellation is the brightest or main star"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Definition: a domineering man; the dominant member in a group of males, esp. animalsKarmaSutra said:ALPHA:
Definition:
[noun] the 1st letter of the Greek alphabet
[noun] the beginning of a series or sequence; "the Alpha and Omega, the first and the last, the beginning and the end"
(Not a word about dominance?)
[adjective] early testing stage of a software or hardware product; "alpha version"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
NickBe said:Looks like you execute selective dictionary searching since all the online dictionaries I found said something about dominance.
That is not very alpha of you? deceiving to prove your point.
The point I was making is you looked at 1 dictionary the one that suited you.KarmaSutra said:I didn't think you'd stoop to idiocy like this. I had some respect for your posts.
Instead of slinging accusations of bullsh!t try looking at this:
http://www.elook.org/dictionary/alpha.html
How "Alpha" to not even do some legwork . . . I'm dissappointed in you young brother.
Look I am not saying that all that is not great what I am saying is that the definition of an alpha male was first used to describe the dominant male in pack animals. All that alpha male means is a dominant male, that is all.pooparu said:Dude, Nick, are you serious? Male lions don't protect the pack in the way females do. They will protect their food and allow their pack to eat, and they will protect their grounds, but the females protect the pack. Please do not argue this, just go online and do some research. What you are saying doesn't make sense.
Your other analogy is also flawed. Male lions only fight when they want to dominant a new pack, want food, or another males land. They don't just go around for hsits and giggles trying to attack everything that moves.
Lacking fear and empathy makes you crazy at best, but not alpha. Besides, these are traits that can be instilled into people, I.e., some countries train spies to kill people and lose their emotion for the greater good, this is easily doable.
Tony Soprano, lol, I wouldn't be afraid of that fat ****. Unless he had a gun to my dome about to pull it, this guy is a clown to me. Someone in his family should have been taken him out if it wasn't for the omerta and all that brotherhood bull****. He is not alpha, he's a terrorist. He threatens peoples families and all to get them to do his will, that is not alpha. If he was truly alpha, he would rarely need to threaten to get what he wants as people would WANT to follow him, and if he did need to resort to physical violence, HE would beat the piss out of the guy HIMSELF (and not use ten other people) to get what he wants, but we all know this wouldn't happen because deep down soprano is a soft *****, which is why he has his cronies do the work for him.
An alpha male is simply someone who is dominant, collected, rounded and constantly observing. He's not going to go run his mouth off about things he doesn't know about, because he would rather learn how to do things the proper way. An alpha male knows how to accept help and still retain his power, and an alpha male certainly knows how to show kindness and respect without losing power. And fear, you can train it away, but fear is a GOOD thing, that's what kept us alive for thousands of years, I'd be ridiculously pissed if i couldn't feel fear.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Not just the mindset but also have people who choose to follow your lead.Fallen33 said:You have to have the mindset to be an Alpha.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.