Has anyone else here dealt with sexual addiction?

[Pierce.Manhammer]

Op: the amount of sex you describe is not out of the question for a well adjusted and healthy guy. That in no way makes you an addict.

I’m two decades older than you and I’m getting laid more than you describe.

I enjoy sex immensely. Always have.

Now if you have issues related to spinning plates then simply stop doing it and see if you can.

 

[Barrister]

For me its not the sex i wasnt proud of.. Its the fact that i spoke to girl A and flirted with her while her friend Girl B was there talking to random dudes, but after going home with Girl A, i ended up sleeping with her friend Girl B (her roommate) instead of her because Girl B just ended up being more sexy and charming. It just made me feel scummy because i have a history of meeting one girl and then sleepign with another girl, making the 1st girl feel like sh.t and I dont mean to.. but its kinda like the 1st girl ends up being a launching pad for the night to end up finding/boosting me enough to get a hotter chick..

To be fair I might have drank a bit more than I am used to in this current state since I dont go out as much as I used to.. but idk still feels bad. Like i said, I got alot of guilty conscience ...

At the risk of sounding like I lack at a moral compass -- so what??

You owe neither Girl A or Girl B anything. They aren't even plates let alone a more committed relationship right? I have slept with multiple women in this manner and haven't felt guilty about it at all. Here is why. Women do this kind of thing all the time to men. It is called having male orbiters. So please don't feel bad about this.

I don't think you lack integrity or character at all if this was what you were referring to. In fact, this is pretty light and not nearly what I was expecting from what you initially described.

 

[RazorRambo24]

At the risk of sounding like I lack at a moral compass -- so what??

You owe neither Girl A or Girl B anything. They aren't even plates let alone a more committed relationship right? I have slept with multiple women in this manner and haven't felt guilty about it at all. Here is why. Women do this kind of thing all the time to men. It is called having male orbiters. So please don't feel bad about this.

I don't think you lack integrity or character at all if this was what you were referring to. In fact, this is pretty light and not nearly what I was expecting from what you initially described.

You're absolutely right. It's not really that big of a deal at the end of he day, but the bigger picture is, I keep doing stuff like that where my rational decision making comes second to my lust, and I end up either hurting someone or causing myself problems in some way or another. I just wonder if I'll truly be able to settle down and give the girl I really like a commited relationship without f-ing up. I think for alot of guys it just sounds easy.. "if you got this hot girl, mann why would u cheat onher". sexual novelty is ac razy thing. you can love someone and have feelings for them but still want to have new pu55y al the time.. theres something about meeting new women, and crackin' them thats a much greater thrill -- but when it comes to causing yourself problems or hurting peoples feelings, i think i'v done way too much of that.. i got a super guilty conscious about it these days

 

[corrector]

I just wonder if I'll truly be able to settle down and give the girl I really like a commited relationship without f-ing up. I think for alot of guys it just sounds easy.. "if you got this hot girl, mann why would u cheat onher". sexual novelty is ac razy thing. you can love someone and have feelings for them but still want to have new pu55y al the time.. theres something about meeting new women, and crackin' them thats a much greater thrill -- but when it comes to causing yourself problems or hurting peoples feelings, i think i'v done way too much of that.. i got a super guilty conscious about it these days

It's interesting that Wheat Waffles talks about that in one of his videos. Probably one of the cons of being a chad.

 

[FlirtLife]

In my case there are NO optional activities that take precedence over sex and knowing that a woman I’m having sex with is thoroughly satisfied to the point at which they borderline crash, after a train load of mind blowing O’s. That’s my drug and what activates my reward centers (dopamine release).

This thread being about quantity (sex addiction), I don't mean to tangent, but as someone interested in being a conductor on that train of mind blowing O's, I'd appreciate books, articles or old threads on that.

 

[Pierce.Manhammer]

Unfortunately, i cannot point you to any specific writings on the subject. I know there are plenty of resources out there if you do a search.

Every time I’ve looked at stuff like position manuals and such I get bored frankly because I’ve tried just about everything possible. It’s been decades of trial and error.

It pays to be observant watch every reaction a woman has to everything you do. You will begin to classify them into groups mentally and recognize patterns and just go to the playlist for that pattern to start. It's always your responsibility to keep it fresh try variations on anything. Even the slightest angle change rhythm pace can all feel like new experiences to both you and the woman.

Heck yesterday I was with someone who I've been with a lot and I changed some thing ever so slightly, and her reaction was to instantly orgasm and say "oh my God, I've never done that before!" Meaning, I guess the position.

The truth is once you get a woman to the point where you show her you can make her have orgasms gracefully, just about anything new will set her off. I have partners that I can talk into orgasms while standing still inside them. It's a sliding scale, intense to be 50-50 mental physical, but it slides back-and-forth during the session.

Never tell a woman during sex that you want her to come unless you've proven you can do it easily and repetitively on your own. She needs to know that you can do it on your own, and once she does, you can suggest it out of them, do not obsess about her orgasms repeat do not obsess about her orgasms.

Do not tell her that you want her to come do not say a thing about it until you have repeatedly proven your abilities. After that point, suggesting it while being gentle can be the BF experience, and then demanding it while pounding her to
within an inch of her passing out can be the dominance game.

Be strong enough to move her around in bed like a leaf, position change every 10 minutes or so, vary rhythm, depth, speed, power.

Anyway some ideas for you, your mileage may vary you need to come up with your own script.

This thread being about quantity (sex addiction), I don't mean to tangent, but as someone interested in being a conductor on that train of mind blowing O's, I'd appreciate books, articles or old threads on that.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Amazing how far the feminism brainwash has destroyed millions of men. Men are suppose to have high sex drive. When we don't have a woman, we use our energy for other things, like building things or taking risks no woman ever will do. Our sex drive is what makes us the producers and master of the world. Write that down on a piece of paper, stick it to your bathroom mirror, and read it every morning.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Amazing how far the feminism brainwash has destroyed millions of men. Men are suppose to have high sex drive. When we don't have a woman, we use our energy for other things, like building things or taking risks no woman ever will do. Our sex drive is what makes us the producers and master of the world. Write that down on a piece of paper, stick it to your bathroom mirror, and read it every morning.

This has absolutely nothing to do with what this post is about. You basically summersaulted in here with a major assumption and I'm positive you haven't read anything that was being said.

1. I do have a high sex drive
2. Its not about me having a high sex drive, rather than being able to control my lust
3. I've not only lost friends, jumped from friend group to friend group from my reputation being tarnished by my behavior ie: cheating on women, sleeping with girls my friends were into, sleeping with dudes girlfriends, etc , but i've also recently lost a job because I was tlaking to multiple women at once and pretty careless/lack of empathy about their emotions and such.. I did improve and change my ways a great extent but. I still find myself slipping in the pursuit of novel sexual situations
4. The biggest factor for me is this: I want to settle down and start a family for myself and also the sake of my mom.. my dad already passed away a long time ago and my brother doesnt have any kids.. I want to be able to give to her the joy of being a grandparent.. But I'm afraid that I won't be a faithful person and might lose the person I choose to settle down and commit to. One of my biggest fears is raising kids in a broken family.

Now that you know that, you're free to go jump into other threads, not read anything and just yell about feminism all you want.

 

[HaleyBaron]

1. I do have a high sex drive

Ok.

2. Its not about me having a high sex drive, rather than being able to control my lust

Fair.

3. I've not only lost friends, jumped from friend group to friend group from my reputation being tarnished by my behavior ie: cheating on women, sleeping with girls my friends were into, sleeping with dudes girlfriends, etc , but i've also recently lost a job because I was tlaking to multiple women at once and pretty careless/lack of empathy about their emotions and such.. I did improve and change my ways a great extent but. I still find myself slipping in the pursuit of novel sexual situations

This has less to do with liking sex and more to do with not knowing how to navigate social playgrounds. That is far different from sexual addiction or whatever. There's guys who can barely care about sex who also **** up the situations above, though without the sleeping around. Your problem is just being socially ignorant.

4. The biggest factor for me is this: I want to settle down and start a family for myself and also the sake of my mom.. my dad already passed away a long time ago and my brother doesnt have any kids.. I want to be able to give to her the joy of being a grandparent.. But I'm afraid that I won't be a faithful person and might lose the person I choose to settle down and commit to. One of my biggest fears is raising kids in a broken family.

This still has nothing to do with your problem. Married men can have plentiful sex with their wives or side chicks.

Now that you know that, you're free to go jump into other threads, not read anything and just yell about feminism all you want.

You may not like it, but you sound like a feminist.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Ok.


Fair.


This has less to do with liking sex and more to do with not knowing how to navigate social playgrounds. That is far different from sexual addiction or whatever. There's guys who can barely care about sex who also **** up the situations above, though without the sleeping around. Your problem is just being socially ignorant.


This still has nothing to do with your problem. Married men can have plentiful sex with their wives or side chicks.


You may not like it, but you sound like a feminist.

Whatever helps you sleep at night bud.

 

[Solomon]

edited: I ended up writing a lot more than I thought.. and decided to change the Title from "My battle with Sex Addiction"..and cut the long ass novel and make things more simple

If anyone else is on the same boat, what helped you out?

When I used to meet people that told me that they were sexually addicted or dealt with sex addiction, I thought it was absurd.. but years later I find myself sexually addicted and realizing I'm really in need of change.. I've lost groups of friends to my lustful nature, messed up good relationships, lost my job recently and got outed as being a womanizer.. etc

Last night I went out and did some questionable sh.t that I'm not proud of..

woke up today hungover and just realizing I need to change if I ever want to really settle down

Use to watch filthy Pr0n it got out of hand long story short the good lord woke me up
If i typed the story you wouldn't believe me
Haven't watched nor masturbated since 09/03/2019 sex on the other hand has been harder to stop

 

[FlirtLife]

Unfortunately, i cannot point you to any specific writings on the subject. I know there are plenty of resources out there if you do a search.

Every time I’ve looked at stuff like position manuals and such I get bored frankly because I’ve tried just about everything possible. It’s been decades of trial and error.

It pays to be observant watch every reaction a woman has to everything you do. You will begin to classify them into groups mentally and recognize patterns and just go to the playlist for that pattern to start. It's always your responsibility to keep it fresh try variations on anything. Even the slightest angle change rhythm pace can all feel like new experiences to both you and the woman.

Heck yesterday I was with someone who I've been with a lot and I changed some thing ever so slightly, and her reaction was to instantly orgasm and say "oh my God, I've never done that before!" Meaning, I guess the position.

I don't ask women about orgasm, as I don't want them to feel pressure, lie, or fake it. In the past women have been much happier after sex with me, so I've been neglectful in observing signs of orgasm. My thinking is starting to shift from passive ("women have an orgasm") to active ("I'm giving women orgasms"), which is motivating my search.

Your pattern recognition over decades may require a higher body count than I plan to pursue. Some men can sustain that (hopefully/presumably the case for you), some wind up empty - and I don't know which camp I'd fall into. So here my approach differs a bit, in that I don't plan to have a "statistically significant sample" of women to practice on. Which is intended as mild medical study humor at my expense, and not a comment about anyone else.

I expect you detect b.s. in articles about sex better than I can - some results will fool me. For those avoiding borderline porn, I'll avoid a direct link, but searching for " Orgasm Hard chase amante " brings up a click bait article about "8 minutes or less". But that article makes some points about rythm I find valid: it helps explain a few unexpectedly better results I've had in the past.

 

[Chowdah]

I don't ask women about orgasm, as I don't want them to feel pressure, lie, or fake it. In the past women have been much happier after sex with me, so I've been neglectful in observing signs of orgasm. My thinking is starting to shift from passive ("women have an orgasm") to active ("I'm giving women orgasms"), which is motivating my search.

Your pattern recognition over decades may require a higher body count than I plan to pursue. Some men can sustain that (hopefully/presumably the case for you), some wind up empty - and I don't know which camp I'd fall into. So here my approach differs a bit, in that I don't plan to have a "statistically significant sample" of women to practice on. Which is intended as mild medical study humor at my expense, and not a comment about anyone else.

I expect you detect b.s. in articles about sex better than I can - some results will fool me. For those avoiding borderline porn, I'll avoid a direct link, but searching for " Orgasm Hard chase amante " brings up a click bait article about "8 minutes or less". But that article makes some points about rythm I find valid: it helps explain a few unexpectedly better results I've had in the past.

****oris stimulation is far more important than penetration in making her want more. If you can make her orgasm with your tongue first, then your fingers, penetration will keep her coming back.

 

[Howiestern]

Amazing how far the feminism brainwash has destroyed millions of men. Men are suppose to have high sex drive. When we don't have a woman, we use our energy for other things, like building things or taking risks no woman ever will do. Our sex drive is what makes us the producers and master of the world. Write that down on a piece of paper, stick it to your bathroom mirror, and read it every morning.

I've never met a woman that I'd call high energy or even close to it.