"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Harry Wilmington, Online Dating Expert, Answers YOUR Questions

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nismo-4 said:
8. What's your take on photoshopping money and or muscles onto your picture? After all, your personality and attitude doesn't make you any better looking.
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LoL, well it helped Master P and Cash Money sell all those records back in the day with those whack album covers, so it might work?

Seriously, though - I've had a few girl friends of mine date dudes off the site that weren't the best looking, but their confidence and "swag" got them to the first date. You can look like muscle-guy money man on your pic, but women actually DO read profiles, and if the guy sounds like a downer they usually won't get the date.

TillTheEndOfTime said:
(Responding to the part where I said I dated nurses, lawyers, scientist, etc.)
Right. Because well-educated women flock to POF & OKC. Judging by the HORRENDOUS grammar and spelling on most profiles, the majority of them did some ****ty & meaningless program, if they did any post secondary education at all... The greatest accomplishment I have seen women brag about online is traveling. It seems that 90% of women online are obsessed beyond belief with traveling.
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I'm just speaking from my experience. These are the types of women I've managed to date online. Now, what I WILL say is, the majority of these girls are online 'cause they're busy, which means they don't have time to go out regularly and find a man they like.

If you run across women who say this, though, BE AWARE OF THE FACT THAT SHE WILL STILL BE JUST AS BUSY WHEN SHE'S DATING YOU. For example, the lawyer chick I dated had to deal with traveling, late hours at work, papers, etc. which left her little energy and time to actually go out. If you're looking for a chick that will be more readily available, find one that just has a decent 9 to 5 job or is in school (but still has her own place - if they still live at home, it's not even worth it unless you don't mind constantly banging at your place. Not necessarily a BAD thing....)

And yes, I have noticed the majority of women say they've traveled a lot. I think they think it makes them look impressive. I don't care where she's been, as long as she's going to let ME be in HER at some point :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Update: I'm putting the finishing touches on my dating eBook for men, and am using some of these questions/answers for the book. If you have any more questions you'd like answered, feel free to ask them now!
 
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