"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Harriet Tubman makes the $20
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
http://visitdorchester.org/harriet-tubman-museum-educational-center/
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
What are we going to name it? I'm thinking Honkytown, Vanilla Land, Crackerville...all of those sound good.
Valhalla, friend
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yes they did. For thousands of years. Arabs enslaved Africans long before Europeans did and they still do. Europeans had slaves for a much shorter period of history."Mommy she did it first".
That's a mature response when trying to minimize a historic cruelty.
/sarcasm
PS - Africa and Asia didn't have the widespread and brutal chattel slavery introduced by the Europeans and used in the Americas.
You're either ignorant or blatantly lying.
"Arab slave trade was the practice of slavery in the Arab world, mainly in Western Asia, North Africa, Southeast Africa, the Horn of Africaand certain parts of Europe (such as Iberiaand Sicily) beginning during the era of theMuslim conquests and continuing into the early second half of the 20th century.[1] The trade was conducted through slave markets in the Middle East, North Africa and the Horn of Africa, with the slaves captured mostly from Africa's interior.
Historians estimate that between 650 and the 1960s, 10 to 18 million people were enslaved by Arab slave traders and taken from Europe, Asia and Africa across the Sahara, the Red Sea, and the western Indian Ocean."
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arab_slave_trade
So as you can clearly see Islamic Arabs enslaved far more of your precious Africans for a much longer period of time.
You're argument is invalid.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
http://www.nj.com/essex/index.ssf/2016/04/how_a_small_nj_company_helped_put_harriet_tubman_o.html
Interesting read
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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