"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I received a hardcover book for Christmas. Usually I prefer paperbacks, but in this case the paperback isn't out yet.
I'm not a book collector by any means, but I was curious about something:

I like to remove the dust jackets when I read a hardcover book, because they annoy me and get in the way. Taking them off also protects them from almost certainly taking damage at some point. Of course, if you take off the dust jacket, that increases the odds of the hard cover taking some sort of damage, most likely some sort of stain or water mark.

As I said, I don't really care, because I'm not a collector, I'm just curious. I've seen experts on TV talking about the condition of books, and how any sort of damage decreases the value. But finding a dust jacket in good condition is a big plus too, and maybe more rare. I was wondering, do you think a book would have more value if it had a pristine hard cover, or a pristine dust jacket? Again, it's just curiosity.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The covers do get in the way and I take them off when reading thus keeping a a pristine cover. Personally I'd rather have a nice cover on the book but if it's more valuable to keep the book in good shape, that's something to consider.
 

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The paper cover is critically important in terms of value, more so than the condition of the hard cover, within limits of course.

I personally have a very valuable book (which I can't name as that could potentially identify me as I'm one of a handful of owners of this book), and if it had the paper cover it would be worth almost twice as much.

If I were a true collector of books with an eye toward later sale, i would probably remove the cover and make my own out of plain paper. When I was in grammar school we used to make book covers out of brown paper bags. In this way, the cover is stashed away and protected, and the book itself is protected by the home-made cover.

I don't mind the covers so much while reading. What I still can't get fully used to is my Kindle. I much prefer a nice physical book to the electronic Kindle.
 

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I usually remove the covers, I find that they get in the way when reading. I don't think books really are that susceptible to damage for me because I try not to leave them out.

If we're talking about physical books I do prefer hardcover to paperback. Hardcover books are so much easier to hold imo

Lately though for me I've actually been leaning towards my kindle because it's easier to get books that I want to read and also sometime I like to lie down on my side when I read and being able to not have to deal with the two sides of a physical book makes it so much more comfortable for me.

As to value of books? I've never really thought of books themselves holding the value. Like yeah the quality is nice, but if you can read it in the end then what really matters is the quality of the story.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Title of the book ?
It's the new George RR Martin book, Fire and Blood. It's supposed to be a pretty dry read, kind of like a history book, but I'm enjoying it so far. It's supposed to be sort of his version of Tolkien's The Silmarillion, and I frigging loved the Silmarillion.
 

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Here in Japan some bookstores will automatically make a new dust jacket when you buy a hardcover book. Kind of cool. But it's also a cultural thing. Japanese are very service oriented, all the shop staff are very polite and make a point of going the extra mile. Japanese folks also would tend to want to read a book in public without letting anybody know what book they are reading. They like their mental privacy like that.
 

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I do not intend to sell any of my books. They are stacked sky-high. I always have 3 books in rotation concurrently. One sci-fi maybe, another philosophic, another fiction or investment/money-making related/success etc etc. History will be thrown in the 3 once one is pushed out, or biography/autobiography. In my 40s there is nothing more I enjoy more than reading other than an hour of sex/eating, then it's back to reading. I watch a lot of youtube, but much of it is garbage or ill-informed.
 

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It's the new George RR Martin book, Fire and Blood. It's supposed to be a pretty dry read, kind of like a history book, but I'm enjoying it so far. It's supposed to be sort of his version of Tolkien's The Silmarillion, and I frigging loved the Silmarillion.
Looks like I'll be getting The Silmarillion..
 

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Looks like I'll be getting The Silmarillion..
I have to warn you, it's not for everybody. It doesn't read like a novel, it's more like a textbook, a history book specifically. But it's very rewarding if you like that sort of thing. It tells the entire history of Tolkien's Middle Earth, from Creation until The Lord of the Rings.

It's amazing how he built this entire world, along with complete languages, that served as the background for his stories.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"Let me tell you something, funny boy... You know that little stamp? The one that says New York Public Library? Well, that may not mean anything to you, but that means a lot to me. One whole helluva lot. Sure, go ahead, laugh if you want to. I've seen your type before -- flashy, making the scene, flaunting convention. Yeah, I know what you're thinking... Why's this guy making such a big stink about old library books? Let me give you a hint, junior.

Maybe we can live without libraries, people like you and me.... Maybe. Sure, we're too old to change the world. What about that kid, sitting down, opening a book right now in a branch of the local library and finding pictures of pee-pees and wee-wees in The Cat in the Hat and The Five Chinese Brothers. Doesn't he deserve better??

Look, if you think this is about overdue fines and missing books, you'd better think again. This is about that kid's right to read a book without getting his mind warped. Or maybe that turns you on, Seinfeld... Maybe that's how you get your kicks... You and your good-time buddies... I've got a flash for you, Joy Boy. Party time is over.

I don't judge a man by the length of his hair or the kind of music he listens to. Rock was never my bag. But you put on a pair of shoes when you walk into the New York Public Library, fella."

Bookman
 

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I always liked him on Seinfeld, he was almost like a detective out of an old black and white movie. And Jerry's expressions while listening to his ridiculous rants.
 

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I have to warn you, it's not for everybody. It doesn't read like a novel, it's more like a textbook, a history book specifically. But it's very rewarding if you like that sort of thing. It tells the entire history of Tolkien's Middle Earth, from Creation until The Lord of the Rings.

It's amazing how he built this entire world, along with complete languages, that served as the background for his stories.
Brooks, Eddings, Martin, Goodkind and Sullivan were similar too.

You could feel words coming to life and be immersed in it.

It's a shame Robert Jordan died.
 

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It's a shame Robert Jordan died.
I never read him. A friend of mine was reading Wheel of Time and highly recommended it, but at the time there were like nine volumes and I didn't want to invest the time until I was sure he was going to finish it. Sure enough, he died before he did (I know someone else finished it). I also tend to be a slow reader (I like to savor the words) so I found it a little daunting. Besides, I tend to prefer non fiction.

Come to think of it, George RR Martin may never finish Song of Ice and Fire, but I'm hoping to live long enough to see Game of Thrones finish in April on HBO.
 

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Brooks, Eddings, Martin, Goodkind and Sullivan were similar too.

You could feel words coming to life and be immersed in it.

It's a shame Robert Jordan died.
Wheel of Time will be finished by Brandon Sanderson, who has epic series of his own

HardCover books are fun for the library... paper book to be read ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wheel of Time will be finished by Brandon Sanderson, who has epic series of his own

HardCover books are fun for the library... paper book to be read ;)
I agree, I too prefer paper book rather then hardcover, easier to read.

Wheel of time is good for those in their late teens early 20's.

David Eddings is a good read for those in their preteens or early teens.

I'm currently reading Amor Towles - A gentleman in Moscow.
 

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I never read him. A friend of mine was reading Wheel of Time and highly recommended it, but at the time there were like nine volumes and I didn't want to invest the time until I was sure he was going to finish it. Sure enough, he died before he did (I know someone else finished it). I also tend to be a slow reader (I like to savor the words) so I found it a little daunting. Besides, I tend to prefer non fiction.

Come to think of it, George RR Martin may never finish Song of Ice and Fire, but I'm hoping to live long enough to see Game of Thrones finish in April on HBO.
Martin is extremely good but I think Jordan is better.

Yeah, song of ice and fire looks unlikely to finish..
 

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Martin is extremely good but I think Jordan is better.

Yeah, song of ice and fire looks unlikely to finish..
Speaking of Jordan's books being long, Martin is a long-winded SOB too.
 
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I actually enjoy reading books in excess of 1000 pages haha
I like them too. “The Stand” by Stephen King. “The Source” by James Michener.

Lately it’s myseries and alternative history.
I’ve drifted away a little from A-symmetrical warfare stuff.

I recommend the Dark Tower series by King. Especially if you like Tolkien.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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