"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hard to gauge this one

BlizzardGuy

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Background:
So I met this girl who is a friend of a friend about a year ago. During mutal hangouts with here and the friend we both know, we'd talk her and there. She ended up being a waitress at one of my favorite restaurants, and so I talk to her whenever I'm in there. One time we were talking and we both said we wanted to catch a hockey game sometime. So she ended up buying tickets and I picked her up and we went. Then I paid for dinner afterwards. Then I got real busy with work traveling and didnt have much time for the next couple months. Every now and again during those months, she'd leave a message on my FB saying that we should hang out or go to a baseball game (since we both like baseball) some time. So last thursday, after she left a comment suggesting that we do something and that she was free the following week (this week), I texted her since she was at work at the time and suggested wednesday. She was busy. I suggested thursday, and she replied back that she was busy. At that point, I thought "well whatever, if she doesn't have time, then neither do I, many other girls", so I just didnt respond back. Even though after talking to a mutual friend, it appears that she really has a very busy schedule. But today she left a comment on my FB saying "heyyy! do you have plans next friday night, the 11th? if not, can we go to the baseball game? :) "

So what has me a bit stumped on this one is that it's kind of a weird limbo stage. We are kind of friends, but considering that we went out to the hockey game and had great kino, and after I took her home I walked her to the door and gave her a hug, so that was like a date, we just didnt say it was or wasnt.

I'm unsure of her interest level. I mean, she could want to hang out to be friends, but then why would she keep messaging me on FB about hanging out unless she did like me. What do you guys think?

How would you guys suggest I play it from here when I respond back to her, and most likely go to the game?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Go for it and find out if she wants more than friends. What do you lose a woman you only see once a month?
 
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