"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hard to gauge this one

BlizzardGuy

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Background:
So I met this girl who is a friend of a friend about a year ago. During mutal hangouts with here and the friend we both know, we'd talk her and there. She ended up being a waitress at one of my favorite restaurants, and so I talk to her whenever I'm in there. One time we were talking and we both said we wanted to catch a hockey game sometime. So she ended up buying tickets and I picked her up and we went. Then I paid for dinner afterwards. Then I got real busy with work traveling and didnt have much time for the next couple months. Every now and again during those months, she'd leave a message on my FB saying that we should hang out or go to a baseball game (since we both like baseball) some time. So last thursday, after she left a comment suggesting that we do something and that she was free the following week (this week), I texted her since she was at work at the time and suggested wednesday. She was busy. I suggested thursday, and she replied back that she was busy. At that point, I thought "well whatever, if she doesn't have time, then neither do I, many other girls", so I just didnt respond back. Even though after talking to a mutual friend, it appears that she really has a very busy schedule. But today she left a comment on my FB saying "heyyy! do you have plans next friday night, the 11th? if not, can we go to the baseball game? :) "

So what has me a bit stumped on this one is that it's kind of a weird limbo stage. We are kind of friends, but considering that we went out to the hockey game and had great kino, and after I took her home I walked her to the door and gave her a hug, so that was like a date, we just didnt say it was or wasnt.

I'm unsure of her interest level. I mean, she could want to hang out to be friends, but then why would she keep messaging me on FB about hanging out unless she did like me. What do you guys think?

How would you guys suggest I play it from here when I respond back to her, and most likely go to the game?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Go for it and find out if she wants more than friends. What do you lose a woman you only see once a month?
 
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