"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Happyguy151's approach journal

happyguy151

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Hi I have decided to write my own journal, If anyone can give me tips on how I can improve it would be much appreciated as I am very new to this. I only made one approach today. This is what happened.
During my lunchbreak I decided to go in to my local Costa, never been in before and thought I would try it. I walk in and this gorgeous waitress is behind the counter. Brown eyes, long dark beautiful hair, as usual my heart began to pound and I started feeling nervous, but I knew I had to get over this shyness sometime. I approached her with a smile, although I'm sure it looked nervous as hell.
Me: Hi
Girl: "Oh, hello! how can I help you?" she smiled back.
Me: "erm a Cappuccino" just then I quickly looked at her name tag
Me: "please Amy"
Amy gave me a smile and good eye contact
Amy: "coming right up"
I wasent sure what to say next, I was worried I would say something stupid.
Me: " How are you? " "are you having a good day?"
Amy: " oh, erm yeah im ok thanks."
She looked and sounded a bit uncomfortable and I thought I blew it. I said thanks and sat down in the corner. I was reading the paper but looking at Amy in the corner of my eye when she collected cups from the tables. She then approached me.
Me: "Hey!"
Amy: " Hi! listen Im really sorry if I came off as being rude earlier, its just no one has ever came up to me at work and asked me if I am having a good day, and it was really sweet of you"
Me: "that's okay" I then smiled at her and winked at her, she smiled back and began to blush slightly and these signs began boosting my confidence slightly.
Amy: "what's your name then?"
Me: "David"
Amy: "nice to meet you David"
I finish my drink and stand up
Amy: "would you like anything else?"
Me: "yeah your phone number" I looked into her eyes and smiled.
Amy: "You have only just met me" she begins to laugh a little "You dont even know much about me"
Me: "well I would like to get to know you better"
Amy smiled again, she walked up to the till, grabbed a pen and wrote her number on a napkin.
Amy: "Here you go!"
Me:Thanks Ill ring you soon" "Bye"
Amy: "Bye"
I walked out and felt so good, I had tried approaches before but none had ever worked before. I will try more tomorrow but I am really pleased with what I have done today.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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lebRambo

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dude, stuff like this warms my heart. Its like theres hope that there are hot, cool and nice women out there. Good luck with this one, dude :)
 
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