"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Happyguy151's approach journal

happyguy151

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Hi I have decided to write my own journal, If anyone can give me tips on how I can improve it would be much appreciated as I am very new to this. I only made one approach today. This is what happened.
During my lunchbreak I decided to go in to my local Costa, never been in before and thought I would try it. I walk in and this gorgeous waitress is behind the counter. Brown eyes, long dark beautiful hair, as usual my heart began to pound and I started feeling nervous, but I knew I had to get over this shyness sometime. I approached her with a smile, although I'm sure it looked nervous as hell.
Me: Hi
Girl: "Oh, hello! how can I help you?" she smiled back.
Me: "erm a Cappuccino" just then I quickly looked at her name tag
Me: "please Amy"
Amy gave me a smile and good eye contact
Amy: "coming right up"
I wasent sure what to say next, I was worried I would say something stupid.
Me: " How are you? " "are you having a good day?"
Amy: " oh, erm yeah im ok thanks."
She looked and sounded a bit uncomfortable and I thought I blew it. I said thanks and sat down in the corner. I was reading the paper but looking at Amy in the corner of my eye when she collected cups from the tables. She then approached me.
Me: "Hey!"
Amy: " Hi! listen Im really sorry if I came off as being rude earlier, its just no one has ever came up to me at work and asked me if I am having a good day, and it was really sweet of you"
Me: "that's okay" I then smiled at her and winked at her, she smiled back and began to blush slightly and these signs began boosting my confidence slightly.
Amy: "what's your name then?"
Me: "David"
Amy: "nice to meet you David"
I finish my drink and stand up
Amy: "would you like anything else?"
Me: "yeah your phone number" I looked into her eyes and smiled.
Amy: "You have only just met me" she begins to laugh a little "You dont even know much about me"
Me: "well I would like to get to know you better"
Amy smiled again, she walked up to the till, grabbed a pen and wrote her number on a napkin.
Amy: "Here you go!"
Me:Thanks Ill ring you soon" "Bye"
Amy: "Bye"
I walked out and felt so good, I had tried approaches before but none had ever worked before. I will try more tomorrow but I am really pleased with what I have done today.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lebRambo

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dude, stuff like this warms my heart. Its like theres hope that there are hot, cool and nice women out there. Good luck with this one, dude :)
 
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