happy turkey day tomorrow!

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

forcerecon01

Master Don Juan

Nov 23, 2022

I want to thank the Don Juans in this forum for your wonderful advice,new insight,and differing prospectives. I have learned a lot and changed a lot. I've met cool people from all over this country and the world on this forum. I am still thankful for my health even at 43 yrs old my knees are okay (not the best) but functional for walking and a little running. I quit smoking over 2 years ago and now my lungs feel a lot better.

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.