"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Brazilian_Blues_Boy

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One of these days, I went back to my old school to get some papers and see some buds from the town. I got back to my city, stopped by a bus stop. The bus soon arrived and I got in by the back door.

Everybody kept staring at me with an ugly face, then after feeling like an Alien :p I realized that I got on without paying.
The bus cashier did not notice. I could have just sat down and let it be, but I made sure I went up to him, apologised and paid.
2 bucks in my money.

The cashier was a very religious person. He got really happy with my attitude, because people, and especially male teenagers are usually people who don't have this kind of concern and integrity.

Then he told me that he believed firmly that you get what give, you plant your seed and if it's good you'll receive good things in return.

He also told me that God helps people who like to have a clean consciousness, and a righteous atittude. I told him that as long as I'm able to afford it, I'll pay it always. Not for the money, but for the honesty.

Then the ride ended and I got home. That had been a tough morning for me. I went to my school with my friend "Bud", from my "Chase the Sun" post. By the way, he's been dating the girl for 4 months now :)

Good things come to those who wait, and especially if those deserve them. Read my post Chase the Sun for an evidence.

I felt strange that day... Out of highschool... forgotten... and to make matter worse, I saw a girl I tried to kiss every single day for the last months, and thanks to Murphy's law she was prettier and sweeter than before.

Well, I went back home, feeling the blues again.

two weeks later...

Went walking around a nice place for running and exercising that we have in my city. It's a pretty lake, with places to run/walk/exercise around.

Went with my best friend, to talk a lot about things of life, and stop being so sedentary.

We both died after running a mile and a quarter of mile (talk about sedentarism here :D ), so we chilled out a while and decided to go eat some donuts.
There was a Dunkin' Donuts store half an hour of walk from where we were. We decided to go.

On our way, I met a girl I knew while taking Theory classes for Driver's License. I hadn't seen her for a good while, and was sweet to see her again. Specially because she's 21 and has a sweet accent :cool:

Then we continued walking and got to Dunkin' Donuts.
Sat there, very tired, ate 2 Donuts and drank coke.
We paid for it all right, because the money we had was supposed to be enough....

Except that we forgot that they charged 10% for serving us at our seats... that was 1 buck... almost unnoticeable...

Until you notice that you don't have money to take the bus back home!! :eek:

My friend and I went to a public phone to call home. He called home, and his mother wasn't around. Nor his father.

My dad was at a meeting and my mom at the hospital with my grandmma, I knew that! So we were like: WTF are we going to do now??

I was going to call my sister to let her know that I'd get home late... but I forgot...

We started walking...
Let me do some math for you guys:

We were downtown... we'd have to walk 20 miles to get home...
At night... my bud was wearing his brand new shoes... and the place where we live, let's say, it's not the safest in the city, and my city, let's say, it's not the safest in Latin America maybe??

So there we were, 8 o' clock, with 2 hours of walking through one of the most dangerous place in the city ahead of us... We had a little money... 3 bucks... we needed one to grab a bus...

If we went walking, we could be mugged, kidnapped or killed. No joke, things around that place are so...

A lady behind us heard us talking and gave us the 1 buck we needed. We didn't even notice her... She turned and gave us the money.

It was heaven sent !! We got the bus and got home safely!! That lady was angel placed there... If I had called home, we would've missed here and maybe we wouldn't have gotten the money...

It was a perfect synchrony of events.

***

After some meditation on these events, I got to some conclusions.

Back in the day when I paid the bus, I did not expect anything in return. I paid because it was the right thing to be done. Why stealing?

And when I needed, when I REALLY needed, not when I THOUGHT I needed, it returned to me.

The woman, also gave 1 buck without expecting nothing in return.
But one day when she really needs she'll receive it from someone, and this someone will also receive someday...

It's a snowball of good things! Because of my initial action, a lot of good things will help to a lot of people that I don't even know!

I just threw a small ball of ice... 2 bucks... that came back to me as 1 buck... But who knows what could've happened if I had gone back home walking?

Murdered? Mugged? Kidnapped? Ran Over? Who knows?

Too many times, we think that we help other people, do right things and live good, honest lives in general but still never get anything in return.
We think that we deserve some good things, but we hardly ever get them.

But that's not the way... We can't to things waiting to receive what we want in exchange...

So, when you do something good, without expecting it to come back to you, it always does at the time you need it most, and in the best way possible ! And because of this, other people that you don't even know receive good things too.

That's why I believe that we've always got to help people, even if it is a small thing.
And always be honest, righteous, and Optimistic!

Optimism for me is this... doing the things for other people, helping, even though they'll hardly ever come back to us in the way and at the time that we want them to...

But when we really need them, they will come back, and in the best way possible.

My best wishes,

BBB
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Oxide

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that is something like karma law i try to follow. i no longer steal stuff from people (little stuff like food, condoms) but make sure i return everything ive taken. I repay my debts and dont lie. Its just nice to feel clear in your head.
 

mtllcanpssy

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same theory here

Ya man i agree with you and recently started to think of a new theory about what the consequences of how we act to each other really affects everyone else. Like if i do something to make someone else mad, who knows what happens to them (mentally, or watever) and they probly be mean to someone else, and so on its like a cycle, which ultimately affects mostly everybody. Vice versa if u act nice/honorable to someone, and ultimately we affect a lot more than one person by the way we act to them, and essentially what goes around comes around
 

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Karma is a pretty crazy thing...

There's been a lot of times I've just had better days overall simply because I did something for someone else. Hell, even if nothing good came back my way, I still felt better which just made everything else better.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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