"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Happiness matters most

everywomanshero

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Guys I recently had a friend run a poll where women were asked what they liked most about a man. When a given a broad range of choices from facial features to income to Past relationships to Body type and so on, 75% of women said His Own Happiness was the most important thing. 25% claimed his attitude towards family (perhaps they had famalies or were family minded, this was not polled). This was conducted online in a format that did not allow interaction between the poller and the participants, and there was no supplimental information given. Granted there is a lot of flaws with this type of polling, but I think it's justone more peice of evidence to back up how important this really is.

That's why your state matters so much when you go out. If you don't appaer happy with your own life, what are the odds you will make her's happier? Probably not good and women know this.

SO in short my theory is this, to have women: be happy. Women cannot be a critical part of what determines your happiness, otherwise you run into a circularly definied trap:

I need women to be happy, I can't get women because I am not happy.

You have to find other things that make you happy or you are doomed. This is one of the major things I have noticed between guys who have a successful life with women, and guys who have a miserable one. You need to first and foremost take an interest in your self, then bring a woman into that *wonderful* world. Plus, when you are truly happy the other things self-correct like you are more likely to take care of yourself (one of the symptoms of depression is not carin for one self) and so on.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ChrizZ

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everywomanshero said:
Guys I recently had a friend run a poll where women were asked what they liked most about a man. When a given a broad range of choices from facial features to income to Past relationships to Body type and so on, 75% of women said His Own Happiness was the most important thing. 25% claimed his attitude towards family (perhaps they had famalies or were family minded, this was not polled). This was conducted online in a format that did not allow interaction between the poller and the participants, and there was no supplimental information given. Granted there is a lot of flaws with this type of polling, but I think it's just more evidence to back up how important this really is.

That's why your state matters so much when you go out. If you don't apprar happy, whata re the odds she will be happier around you? Probably not good and women know this.

SO in short my theory is this, to have women: be happy. Women cannot be a critical part of what determines your happiness, otherwise you run into a circularly definied trap:

I need women to be happy, I can't get women because I am not happy.

You have to find other things that make you happy or you are doomed.
agreed, happyness is a big factor in attracting women, but not the only one though. You also need game.
 

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Disagree that you need game. If you're happy and confident I think that's 95% of the issue. "Game" is for those of us (most of us) who need to fudge confidence...

...because if it's a "game" than you're not in reality.

Look at the guys out there who are truly confident, the natural alphas. Do you think they go up to a girl thinking to themselves "I'm going to run pattern "ZD"" or "huh, this chick looks like she might respond to some C&F"? No. They just do it. A guy with confidence registers on a girl's radar right away... you could walk up there and recite the ingredients of a cereal box and still get IOI's.
 

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realsmoothie said:
you could walk up there and recite the ingredients of a cereal box and still get IOI's.
LOL! :crackup:
 
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