everywomanshero
Master Don Juan
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Guys I recently had a friend run a poll where women were asked what they liked most about a man. When a given a broad range of choices from facial features to income to Past relationships to Body type and so on, 75% of women said His Own Happiness was the most important thing. 25% claimed his attitude towards family (perhaps they had famalies or were family minded, this was not polled). This was conducted online in a format that did not allow interaction between the poller and the participants, and there was no supplimental information given. Granted there is a lot of flaws with this type of polling, but I think it's justone more peice of evidence to back up how important this really is.
That's why your state matters so much when you go out. If you don't appaer happy with your own life, what are the odds you will make her's happier? Probably not good and women know this.
SO in short my theory is this, to have women: be happy. Women cannot be a critical part of what determines your happiness, otherwise you run into a circularly definied trap:
I need women to be happy, I can't get women because I am not happy.
You have to find other things that make you happy or you are doomed. This is one of the major things I have noticed between guys who have a successful life with women, and guys who have a miserable one. You need to first and foremost take an interest in your self, then bring a woman into that *wonderful* world. Plus, when you are truly happy the other things self-correct like you are more likely to take care of yourself (one of the symptoms of depression is not carin for one self) and so on.
That's why your state matters so much when you go out. If you don't appaer happy with your own life, what are the odds you will make her's happier? Probably not good and women know this.
SO in short my theory is this, to have women: be happy. Women cannot be a critical part of what determines your happiness, otherwise you run into a circularly definied trap:
I need women to be happy, I can't get women because I am not happy.
You have to find other things that make you happy or you are doomed. This is one of the major things I have noticed between guys who have a successful life with women, and guys who have a miserable one. You need to first and foremost take an interest in your self, then bring a woman into that *wonderful* world. Plus, when you are truly happy the other things self-correct like you are more likely to take care of yourself (one of the symptoms of depression is not carin for one self) and so on.