"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hanging out as "friends"

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This chick wants to hang out and get to know me as "friends" first, then she says she'll decide whether or not we will be intimate.

How should I act when we hang out? Should I act like its a normal date anyways or just keep it friendly with some light kino and what not?

Any help would be appreciated.

thx
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Forget her. She thinks she owns you and is trying to control you right from the start. You gotta take control. Say, "no how about, we go on a date and if I don't like you enough to be intimate, we can be friends."

To me, it seems like she's feeling like she's better than you or you're not good enough for her stuck up @ss.
 
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I wouldnt do it man. This sounds like a fast trap into the friends zone. If she was really interested in you, she wouldnt want to hang out with you "just as friends" first. It seems like she is trying to take control by her deciding what you two will be. Don't go out with her as friends.
 
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Um no, so you asked her out and she said lets be friends and see how it goes from there. Eitehr get her to give a flat out rejection by strongly coming on to her or stear clear.
 
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No, its not really all like that.

I didn't really ask her out or anything. I have been kinda talkin to her and stuff just getting to know her, I never asked her out personally. Then, she told one of my friends she wants to get to know me better and hang out as friends first and see where it goes.

hope that clears it up a lil better, but I am still thinking the same thing you guys are anyways.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by AFK Protector
Forget her. She thinks she owns you and is trying to control you right from the start. You gotta take control. Say, "no how about, we go on a date and if I don't like you enough to be intimate, we can be friends."

To me, it seems like she's feeling like she's better than you or you're not good enough for her stuck up @ss.
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i havent read any responces and i only the read the first line of that reply and i agree.


**** HER MAN UR THE ****NIG PRIZE WHAT THE **** IS WRONG WID U PPL

u fukn control her
not the other way around
 
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