"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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yungahdubz

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Doing well man, well done on the diet.
 

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Yeah thanks man, healthy eating is pretty satisfying, but for the past week or so I havnt been able to sleep! I layed in my bed from 11pm to 3am trying to fall asleep one night, i think its all the caffine in the green tea I love drinking :p
 

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Green tea? Eeeeeeeeew :moon:
 

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Agreed, green tea is pretty tasty.

Good work man.

As for spotters.. I sware it seems obvious to me how one should perform in such a capacity.. but from my experience this sadly isn't obvious to a lot of people.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hey guys, do you think my body might have plateaued? I mean, I was doing the same exercises for 7 months straight, wouldn't by body have gotten used to this already, maybe a couple months back?
 

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You could try a new program if you wish, but I would be more concerned with checking your form before you do as I have said in the past.

Oh and did I mention, ignore those f******* on bodybuilding.com. Get everything from there out of your head and go on ironaddicts.com instead. Either that, or fork up $18 a month and use www.redpointfitness.com.

Here would be a good next step for you:

http://www.ironaddicts.com/forums/showthread.php?t=8050
 

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I agree with Quag. That would be an good replacement if you want to stop doing rippetoe.

Redpointfitness.com as a different option would be great also.

Whatever you choose, even to stay on rippetoe, the diet is extremely important. You seem to have been nailing it lately...so keep on that. Btw, don't drink green tea before bed if you want to sleep lol :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Squats
165x5
165x5 lovin the squats, form looks good, finally fixed my flaws

Bent Over Row
135x6
135x6
135x6
135x6 these are pretty fun too, def can raise here

BB Curls
65x8
65x8
65x8 these are great, and def will raise soon

Calf Raises
195x15
195x15
195x15 oooo these burn :D

Yeah im liking thse new workouts, i cant wait to see them raise lke my old ones
 

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Bench
185x3
185x3
185x3 - What the fvck, this used to be so easy now im stuggling i cant even get 5 reps up on the first set...

Incline DB Press
50lb dumbbell x 8
50lb dumbbell x 8
50lb dumbbell x 8
50lb dumbbell x 8 - These were very hard for me

Skull Crushers
65 lbs x 10
65 lbs x 10 - Couldnt finish

Military Press
35lb dumbbell x 8
35lb dumbbell x 8
35lb dumbbell x 8

Okay problems here. Is there a way I can re-arrange this? Mondays workout gets my very sore for days, then I come to workout wednesday and I can barley lift, and on top of that, bench press gets me tired for incline, and incline gets me tired for skull crushers and so on...im not lifting my hardest right now, because all my energy is going into the bench press and incline that I can hardly finish my other workouts and I know I can go heavier my arms are just giving out too early, this isnt working out for me :down:

20 mins cardio elliptical
 

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yeah if you're going balls-out on your bench your incline DB's and other accessory lifts are gonna be lower, don't worry about it, that's fine...it's that way for most everyone basically.

If you feel you're plateauing now (ie on your bench) maybe its time to move off Rippetoe and onto another routine for a while. Try a basic 3day split maybe?
 

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I moved off rippetoe and started something new on monday, I should have gotten off rippetoes a long time ago, my body plateaued a long time ago but I kept at it with the same workouts
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CNS might have been off...who knows. Don't judge everything by one workout and keep working hard. I hope your eating good and doing morning/evening cardio. That's more important imo.
 

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I-tallionStallion said:
CNS might have been off...who knows. Don't judge everything by one workout and keep working hard. I hope your eating good and doing morning/evening cardio. That's more important imo.
CNS?

Diets fvcking up just this week though, i dont have the stomach to eat anything in the morning, im staying after school 1 hour everyday to work for books I owe instead of paying 160 bucks for them, still doing cardio after workouts
 
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Was that your first time rowing?

If so, your a beast. Atm i can only do 40kg for 5x5, and i've been doing them for months :cuss:
 

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Yeah first time rowing, thanks for the compliment, much appreciated.

EDIT: Whoops, that day I didnt do 135, now I see why your complimenting me, I typed 135 by mistake its supposed to be 115 :/

Now im off to the gym, keep you posted :D
 
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Deadlift

185x5
185x5 - Wow It feels so good to get my form down, no more back pain, DEFINITELY will be raising

Leg Press

630x10
630x10 - Can raise too, im more into squats now :D

Lat Pull Downs

120lbx6
120lbx6
120lbx6
120lbx6 - I can raise here too

E-Z bar curls

55lbx8
55lbx8
55lbx8 - Failed the last set. Couldnt do 4

Calf Raises

215x10
215x10
215x10

Okay, you may notice that my lifts are lower today(such as the curls and BB row from Wed.), this is because i typed out the wrong numbers thinking they were higher when they werent
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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