"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Handling unfamiliar situations/ surprises

Life-Trainee

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What's a best way to handle unexpected situations? I have a problem with such, where my mind just suspends under emotional pressure as i'm trying to come up with a rational reaction. Usually I'm not good at that. I've been DJing local clubs recently and was put in such situtations where I had to deal with unpleasantless coming from guys. Most of the time I was lost for words. Damn analytical mind.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Life-Trainee
What's a best way to handle unexpected situations? I have a problem with such, where my mind just suspends under emotional pressure as i'm trying to come up with a rational reaction. Usually I'm not good at that. I've been DJing local clubs recently and was put in such situtations where I had to deal with unpleasantless coming from guys. Most of the time I was lost for words. Damn analytical mind.

I have this same problem.
Can an experienced/advanced player please answer his question.

Thanks
 

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Remember to ALWAYS stay cool, calm and collected. Seriously, if you get pissed off, nervous, anxious, frightened, ready to scream etc... this is fine.. they are all natural emotions. Just dont SHOW these emotions.

You gotta stay chill regardless of the situation at hand. Dont panic and keep your wits about you.

So if a guy is talking sh1t to you, just look him in the eyes for a good 5 seconds to prove your not scared. Then turn and walk away. Its just not worth it.
 

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Or offer him a beer... "Hey man, chill out! No need to get pissed off. Tell you what, you let me in on your awesome abilities at picking up women, and I'll buy you a beer!" with a smirk. This should knock 'em off guard. A likely response from them would be to accuse you of being a fag; simply shrug your shoulders, and walk over to some hot *****, introduce yourself, and ask them if they agree with what he said. A) Another likely response would be that they might just settle down and reconsider their actions. You've got an analytical mind, right? Well, use it! Put yourself in those situations, and think about what you could've done, and what you think the response would be. I often find myself playing out situations in my mind just to see how to react in those certain situations. It's pre-planning!
 
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I read a good quote when I was a kid...don't know where it came from..but I think it relates..

"Act Brave...even if you REALLY AREN'T...no one can tell the difference."
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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