Handling rejection

[SoylentGreen]

Ok, some of you may know I'm from a small town so my options for women are slim, especially during winter when I can't drive around as freely. I KNOW I shouldn't date "work chicks" and I won't in the future, but I have very few other options.

Heres my dilemma..

I really like someone from work and have been getting good body language. I've been getting GREAT kino - playing thumb wrestling, "hand smack" games, I can grab her waist and get a hug without getting a slap, sometimes she comes and hugs me from behind, pressing her boobs hard into my back, lets me touch her hair etc etc.

We are hanging out this week, the day is undetermined, and I am worried about what happens if I am rejected when I "make my move". I would be sooo embarrased if she told anyone of her girlfriends at work, and she talks alot so...I'm nervous. My inner afc won't shut his f***ing mouth. My world at work, would be ruined if she rejects me...

Help. I really don't know if I should go ahead and make my moves on this one...

And if I even make a move how would I deal with the rejection at work etc?

 

[Jitterbug]

If you're already sh!tting your pants like this, maybe you shouldn't make a move.

 

[Juando]

You're in a tough place.

Rejection is the least of your problems.

I've been rejected so much since coming to SS I should sue. Actually i pride myself on the rejections, it means I'm puttin' out there and making an investment in myself.

Your problem is that you need to walk gingerly and find out if you, her, and the situation is a "go' for a hookup and beyond, which means you risk LJBF by being deliberate and taking your time.

Better to risk losing her and moving on to a new girl if it's not a good situation. The alternative, a work nightmare, is not worth it.

 

[CobraDamn]

Take it from me man, tread somewhat quick if you can. I just recently went from AFC to aspiring DJ and I had a work crush that I drifted on too long with and though I think it had some potential of working out...being AFC screwed things up. I should have just "not cared" in the beginning, but I did...and it screwed me up.

But you live, learn...and try again...BETTER.

 

[Effington]

You can always get drunk and use alcohol as an excuse if things go badly. However, take it from a guy who's had his fair share of rejections...it's not that big of a deal. It's only a big deal because most people make it a big deal in their head.

 

[Craig Reeves]

The absolute worst-case scenario is that she harshly rejects you and then tells her friends and her friends all make fun of you at work. That's really the worst thing that could happen.

HOWEVER, this is also highly unlikely to affect you. If her friends make fun of you for instance, you can just ask them to stop and if they don't, tell a manager or superivisor that they're harassing you.

Even if she rejects your advances, this only increases your chances of hooking up with her -- she could very well change her mind, ESPECIALLY if you react in a way that proves you are a real man.

Also, keep in mind that it's better to move too fast than to move too slowly. It's much easier to recover from a rejected kiss than an LJBF.