"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Handling Push Pull

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I saw an old flame the other night and since that time i've been getting slightly out of frame with managing her severe push pull behavior. During our date we had a good time with lots of sexual tension building that ended in a proper BJ before I dropped her off.

Since that time she has been texting a lot and instigating a desire to sleep together. I've deleted the txts because I don't want to see her BS every time I check my txt messages.

The gist is she will say very direct things like "I want you in me". If I ignore, she txts more, if I respond to lock it in, she runs her BS..."oh I don't know" "we will see" "ma". She knows i'm in a relationship with another girl.

I like the challenge, I like playing back and forth, but i'm wondering how much do I pull back now, or do I just go completely silent? Her and I have a two year history.

I want to completely drop her at this point until she sets a date and time.

Last night she texted that she wants me in her. I responded with a bit of dirty talk and said let's do it. She said pulled away. I haven't responded.

My ego wants to point out her BS to her in a playful manner, but I want to just ignore till she cracks and now i'm pissed at her.

2 other plates, one with high IL.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Urbanyst

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She is a troll. Don't feed the trolls.

She is full of sh*t like all women. Actions are all that matter and you ain't getting any action so stop wasting your time and making yourself look stupid playing her dumb games.
 

darksprezzatura

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Dump women who continue playing games.
It would only lead to a stalemate and resentment.
 

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How do you handle it? After being crushed by a women who did that, you simply don't play, you walk away!
 
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