So I was at this conference in September and figured, what the hell, I'll try gaming some of the girls there in a harmless sort of way, just for "practice". There were two who seemed interesting so I did the whole small talk thing, a bit of kino, and ended up talking/flirting all evening with one girl who I'll call Jill. The second girl, say Jane, seemed to get jealous once or twice and occasionally butted in when me and Jill were getting too friendly for her taste. Anyway, that was it and I didn't really expect to see either of them again.
Fast forward to 3 weeks ago, I was travelling to Jill's city for other reasons so I emailed her and after some harmless "how have you been" stuff I told her I was taking her to a "secret event at an undisclosed location". Don't know how much can you tell from email but judging from the number of smilies it seems like her IL was pretty high at the time. So last week we met in her city, spent the evening together and had an awesome time, kissed a few times, but nothing more. There was some light kino but in hindsight it was insufficient. At the end of the evening I suggested going back to my hotel for "drinks" and she declined, IMO the kino just hadn't been enough. However she had indirectly suggested that we might get together again so I just took this like another first date and we left it at that.
So today I called her up to maybe get together next weekend. Maybe she didn't like my action date idea or maybe her IL is far less than what I thought but I got the "I don't know what my schedule will be like for the next few weeks" line. Ouch. She also seemed really surprised that I would travel again to meet her, maybe that diminished whatever value I had in her mind.
What I intend to do now: no contact, I think it's a no brainer here. I have this other chick on my radar and I'll see how that goes, but as far as Jill is concerned unless she contacts me that's over.
Lessons I'm drawing from this: more KINO!!! Yes we kissed but apart from some light touching that was all. I had many opportunities to do stuff like hand holding without it seeming out of place or even cheesy romantic but for some reason it never really appealed to me. This is why I'm still calling this a half-success: I got the date and I did kiss her and I know what I could have done to make things work.
Any thoughts or advice are welcome
Fast forward to 3 weeks ago, I was travelling to Jill's city for other reasons so I emailed her and after some harmless "how have you been" stuff I told her I was taking her to a "secret event at an undisclosed location". Don't know how much can you tell from email but judging from the number of smilies it seems like her IL was pretty high at the time. So last week we met in her city, spent the evening together and had an awesome time, kissed a few times, but nothing more. There was some light kino but in hindsight it was insufficient. At the end of the evening I suggested going back to my hotel for "drinks" and she declined, IMO the kino just hadn't been enough. However she had indirectly suggested that we might get together again so I just took this like another first date and we left it at that.
So today I called her up to maybe get together next weekend. Maybe she didn't like my action date idea or maybe her IL is far less than what I thought but I got the "I don't know what my schedule will be like for the next few weeks" line. Ouch. She also seemed really surprised that I would travel again to meet her, maybe that diminished whatever value I had in her mind.
What I intend to do now: no contact, I think it's a no brainer here. I have this other chick on my radar and I'll see how that goes, but as far as Jill is concerned unless she contacts me that's over.
Lessons I'm drawing from this: more KINO!!! Yes we kissed but apart from some light touching that was all. I had many opportunities to do stuff like hand holding without it seeming out of place or even cheesy romantic but for some reason it never really appealed to me. This is why I'm still calling this a half-success: I got the date and I did kiss her and I know what I could have done to make things work.
Any thoughts or advice are welcome
