"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hairstylist Gives Me Her Number

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So...I've recently been running into my hair stylist who moonlights as a server at this restaurant/bar I often go to. Since I talk to her both at the salon and the restaurant she works at, I've gotten to know her pretty good.

The other day at the restaurant (Thursday), I said I'd be coming in for a hair cut soon and she asked me if I had her number. I said no and she gave it to me and then told me to message her when I wanted to make an appt.

Now, obviously this is not how they operate and I'm 99% sure she just wanted me to have her number as I've gotten some subtle signals from her recently at the restaurant.

What I'd like to know is, do I need to use this phone number now in some way or can I wait to go get my hair cut this week, talk with her some more, and then text her to meet up next week?

I figured she already has plans this weekend, tomorrow is Easter, and besides...Sundays are weird nights for dates anyway. I'm just not sure what to do here.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheMonkeyKing

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Give it a few days. She's clearly interested. So just drop a line or call briefly next week to find out her availability and invite her out. Don't compromise your own availability. Just set a date, time and place that is mutually convenient. She'll either turn up or she won't. Sounds like she will though. Simple.
 

AlphaNate

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When you get your hair cut, invite her out for a drink with you. When she agrees, tell her to give you her phone number.
 

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My stylist gave me her number and told me to text her when I needed an appt. I'm sure you are a man with SMV but I might wait till you get your hair cut and see how it goes. You'll know from that interaction if she wants more. JMO
 

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I'm sure you are a man with SMV but I might wait till you get your hair cut and see how it goes. You'll know from that interaction if she wants more. JMO
Yeah, I really need a hair cut bad so I made an appt this week with her through the receptionist without texting her first. I'll wait then to suggest meeting up for a drink if all seems to be going well.

If she responds positively, then I already have her number.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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No no no don't let her cut your hair.

Seriously. just trust me I don't like the flow of that

Tons of barbers. She didn't give you the number for the haircut.
 

Krueg

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I wouldnt take her seriously.
 

FwoGiZ

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I would get the haircut, and ask her on a date or if she wants to grab drinks just the 2 of you sometimes.. if she agrees which she most probably will, then you can wink at her saying something about how convenient it is you already have her number ;)
Do not pitch a date by text/phone tho... you talk to her face to face too often for that.
 
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