"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Had unprotected sex...what should I do now?

Who Dares Win

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Yeah I know I should have wear a condom but now its done...what Im supposed to do? I mean how long I have to wait and which medical tests I have to do?

Im checking myself everyday but see no rushes or changes inmy body, Im concerned even more because I met an other girl now and dont wanna give her any disease but at the same time I cannot turn down her offer otherwise she'll think Im rejecting her.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Look online and check nearby sexual health clinics, or call your doctor.

Get tested earlier and then get tested a month later again. Some STD's don't manifest early on and take a while to show up on tests.
 

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Remember that the STDs that you are most likely to contract, like HPV, herpes and skin disorders, only get reduced in transmission by about 50% by condom use. Condoms do prevent syphilis and the clap, but the clap (gonorrhea) typically shows painful symptoms within a week or two of contracting, so you probably don't have it. Syphillis makes a sore about half of the time.

The biggest danger in theory is HIV and hepatitis. But unless she was a prostitute or IV drug user, your odds of having contracted those are very small. I'd guess that the odds are not much different from something else horrible and unlikely happening to you, like dying or getting maimed in an accident. You still need to get tested at three and six month intervals.

If you keep showing no symptoms, I wouldn't say anything to the new girl if I were you. It will ruin your chemistry with her. Plus, it's not like all women are going to be honest with you about the details of their past. Even if she's a virgin, she can still give you type-1 herpes. Manage your risks wisely, but beyond that, you just have to get over your fear.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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