"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Had unprotected sex...what should I do now?

Who Dares Win

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Yeah I know I should have wear a condom but now its done...what Im supposed to do? I mean how long I have to wait and which medical tests I have to do?

Im checking myself everyday but see no rushes or changes inmy body, Im concerned even more because I met an other girl now and dont wanna give her any disease but at the same time I cannot turn down her offer otherwise she'll think Im rejecting her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ArcBound

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Look online and check nearby sexual health clinics, or call your doctor.

Get tested earlier and then get tested a month later again. Some STD's don't manifest early on and take a while to show up on tests.
 

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Remember that the STDs that you are most likely to contract, like HPV, herpes and skin disorders, only get reduced in transmission by about 50% by condom use. Condoms do prevent syphilis and the clap, but the clap (gonorrhea) typically shows painful symptoms within a week or two of contracting, so you probably don't have it. Syphillis makes a sore about half of the time.

The biggest danger in theory is HIV and hepatitis. But unless she was a prostitute or IV drug user, your odds of having contracted those are very small. I'd guess that the odds are not much different from something else horrible and unlikely happening to you, like dying or getting maimed in an accident. You still need to get tested at three and six month intervals.

If you keep showing no symptoms, I wouldn't say anything to the new girl if I were you. It will ruin your chemistry with her. Plus, it's not like all women are going to be honest with you about the details of their past. Even if she's a virgin, she can still give you type-1 herpes. Manage your risks wisely, but beyond that, you just have to get over your fear.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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