"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Had unprotected sex...what should I do now?

Who Dares Win

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Yeah I know I should have wear a condom but now its done...what Im supposed to do? I mean how long I have to wait and which medical tests I have to do?

Im checking myself everyday but see no rushes or changes inmy body, Im concerned even more because I met an other girl now and dont wanna give her any disease but at the same time I cannot turn down her offer otherwise she'll think Im rejecting her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Look online and check nearby sexual health clinics, or call your doctor.

Get tested earlier and then get tested a month later again. Some STD's don't manifest early on and take a while to show up on tests.
 

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Remember that the STDs that you are most likely to contract, like HPV, herpes and skin disorders, only get reduced in transmission by about 50% by condom use. Condoms do prevent syphilis and the clap, but the clap (gonorrhea) typically shows painful symptoms within a week or two of contracting, so you probably don't have it. Syphillis makes a sore about half of the time.

The biggest danger in theory is HIV and hepatitis. But unless she was a prostitute or IV drug user, your odds of having contracted those are very small. I'd guess that the odds are not much different from something else horrible and unlikely happening to you, like dying or getting maimed in an accident. You still need to get tested at three and six month intervals.

If you keep showing no symptoms, I wouldn't say anything to the new girl if I were you. It will ruin your chemistry with her. Plus, it's not like all women are going to be honest with you about the details of their past. Even if she's a virgin, she can still give you type-1 herpes. Manage your risks wisely, but beyond that, you just have to get over your fear.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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