***HAD TO LIE TO GIRLS JUST TO MAKE OUT WITH THEM***

[Ryan]

So we were out at a bar last night, I was drunk (my game is a lot better drunk than sober: yes a thread for the sticky points thread)

That night as soon as I left the house I started going in on girls, even while I was waiting for my friend to pick up cash from atm, to be precise, I even pulled over and tried to chat up a chick. I was sooo froggy!

Then we got in the bar..... country music, I start flirting with the whole wide world.....the bartender, high five to random girls who were having a birthday, even chatting to staff.

So this was my routine:

1. Approach a girl....."Oh hey do you go to XYZ University you look familiar?"
2. "Oh ok ...sorry my name is DJ and I am an exchange student from Brazil (lie)
3. "Reason I came to canada is to meet Canadian women b/c they are so sexy!"
4. "Show me some moves....lets dance etc"

So this resulted in me making out with two girls, I got one solid number (tried to set up a date at the lake with her), girl #1 "had to go to the washroom" (what should I of done?)

I realized lieing about "exchange student from brazil" will prevent me from having a true relationship with a women, so I am wondering what is a good opener for clubs? (and please dont tell me "I would like your opinion on something", doesnt work in my town province)

Can you guys share how you open chicks in clubs?

Again, how do I build an emotional/romantic connection with girls who I am dancing with so we can move onto date and relationship (girlfriend is my ultimate objective) ???

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Again, how do I build an emotional/romantic connection with girls who I am dancing with so we can move onto date and relationship (girlfriend is my ultimate objective) ???

Dude are you serious with that last part? It seems you're going about this all the wrong way.

You don't need to lie, heck it doesn't really even matter what you say when you approach a girl, especially in a club to dance. Just approach with confidence, dance with her, and escalate from there.

It seems like you have the first two parts down pretty well, but never go into a club with the intention of making a girl on the dance floor your girlfriend. It's just a numbers game: keep approaching/dancing with girls, escalate sexually by touching their back/legs/ass, and if you can't seal the deal, get their number and set up a date. What you can also do is isolate them from the dance floor by leading them to the bar or a more secluded spot so you can get some 1 on 1 time, which would be good for establishing more kino.

 

[Ryan]

Dude are you serious with that last part? It seems you're going about this all the wrong way.

You don't need to lie, heck it doesn't really even matter what you say when you approach a girl, especially in a club to dance. Just approach with confidence, dance with her, and escalate from there.

It seems like you have the first two parts down pretty well, but never go into a club with the intention of making a girl on the dance floor your girlfriend. It's just a numbers game: keep approaching/dancing with girls, escalate sexually by touching their back/legs/ass, and if you can't seal the deal, get their number and set up a date. What you can also do is isolate them from the dance floor by leading them to the bar or a more secluded spot so you can get some 1 on 1 time, which would be good for establishing more kino.

Thank you for the reply.

What I mean is I dont want to merely sleep around.....I'm at that stage where I want to settle down.

 

[Ryan]

Just approach with confidence, dance with her, and escalate from there.
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Are you able to tell us HOW YOU open girls? can you provide a recent example? Assuming you go nightclubbing.

@Building_and_Loan

 

[thatfeel]

Stop wasting your time at bars and clubs. You should be opening and approaching women that are in the path of your usual day to day activities.

 

[logicallefty]

Can you guys share how you open chicks in clubs?

What three things do 99% of all girls at clubs have?

1) Tits
2) A vag
3) A cell phone!

To get to 1&2, here are some openers I posted a while back about #3 to get you started:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/21st-century-opening-lines-closers-wanted.224778/

 

[Ryan]

Stop wasting your time at bars and clubs. You should be opening and approaching women that are in the path of your usual day to day activities.

I approach women everywhere. clubs gym, grocery store, campus

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Woah, how old were you when you first joined the website?

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Are you able to tell us HOW YOU open girls? can you provide a recent example? Assuming you go nightclubbing.

@Building_and_Loan

Eh no I don't go clubbing anymore, and not even to bars more than once a month or so. I meet more people through my professional development networking group and running group.

I don't really have any "openers" per se other than just initiating conversation and talking to them while maintaining eye contact and exuding confidence. Works wonders.

Although, my favorite opener I used in the past that I've also shared on this site is "Did you know if you say 'beer can' with a British accent and 'bacon' with a Jamaican accent, they sound exactly the same?"

It always gets a laugh, it's funny, but openers don't get you laid. Just a way to break the ice.

 

[marmel75]

Thank you for the reply.

What I mean is I dont want to merely sleep around.....I'm at that stage where I want to settle down.

Lmao...it doesn't work like that bro...at least not with good results.

 

[Serenity]

Well, there's no perfect opener, don't stress it too much. If you want a relationship though you gotta stop lying. It might work to get some of them laid, but nobody wants a boyfriend who lies. If someone does become your girlfriend they will spend a lot of time with you, whatever lies you have told will be found out eventually. Even if you think you can avoid being caught I wouldn't recommend it, you'd always have to be prepared to maintain the web of lies. That's stressful, I assume you'd want to relax and not worry around a potential girlfriend.

You can use anything as an opener, as long as it's true. If you say you think someone looks familiar when you know they don't, then it's a lie. If someone actually does look familiar it's a true question.

Good thing about being honest is that you spend zero effort making up things to say. You can just say what you know to be true. This is mostly why some guys seem so smooth and calm, their minds aren't frantically trying to make stuff up.

What you say when opening isn't as important as the fact you started talking to them, unless it's something really cheesy. You won't impress them with any opener and the harder you try to impress the less impressive it is. Why? Everyone does it, every single dude who doesn't know how to just start a conversation does it. It's an instant disqualifier because you start by showing them your social incompetence.

 

[kronreiff]

If you have to get drunk to be at the top of your game, then you really have no game.

 

[Ryan]

If you have to get drunk to be at the top of your game, then you really have no game.

I know may be a sticking point, but these days the only time I am confident is either when I am drunk or at the end of a workout.

 

[Ryan]

Lmao...it doesn't work like that bro...at least not with good results.

What doesnt work like that?

 

[Ryan]

Woah, how old were you when you first joined the website?

Lol I was a baby, thanks for asking , I was a **completely** different man.

TBH I haven't made that much improvement since joining.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Lol I was a baby, thanks for asking , I was a **completely** different man.

TBH I haven't made that much improvement since joining.

I was just wondering because you were one of the originals back when Pook and Anti-Dump and Giovanni Cassonova were still around and the site had only one domain.

 

[Ryan]

I was just wondering because you were one of the originals back when Pook and Anti-Dump and Giovanni Cassonova were still around and the site had only one domain.

Anti Dump was a legend..........

You know I was the first person to get the title Master Don Juan, out of everyone.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Anti Dump was a legend..........

You know I was the first person to get the title Master Don Juan, out of everyone.

Shouldn't that make you the legend then? Also, why was Anti Dump so great?

 

[Ryan]

Shouldn't that make you the legend then? Also, why was Anti Dump so great?

Dude, I am honest and mature enough at this point to admit, after being 16 years on this site I still suck with girls ( I hope no one uses that against me in future posts).

His advice was inspiring, it was comforting reading his posts.