Had sex on monday, she asks to see me 2 days later

[AhGonlum]

Where should I take her tho ?
Eating ?
Bowling ?
Mini golf ?
I tried to ask her « what do you have in mind » to see if she just want to be sexfriend or more

 

[AhGonlum]

It will be our second date btw. She called me directly home for first date. Red flag for LTR ?

 

[Vanderdonck]

If you want her as a FB, pump the brakes.

If you want her as a GF, congrats, she's into you. Don't ask her, just make a decision, she'll go.

 

[justaroundthecorner]

If you qualify her for LTR material, would suggest eating (some standard restaurant will do) & you pay whole bill, it's great for making connection and talking about various topics is easy when you eat and drink something nice. Girls love being invited to restaurants and since sex already happened, then why not?

 

[AhGonlum]

We going to mini golf. She is used to go to dinner I think..
she is very superficial, I doubt about LTR. But I think it’s better to propose smth out than saying let’s meet again at your place

 

[Divorced w 3]

I don’t understand why guys come ask for help and don’t even let things marinate for a day

You asked for help and then didn’t allow anyone to help

 

[Divorced w 3]

Let me get something straight. Girl said on day one come right to her place.

This guy gets an inbound text from her, first communication in 2 days since the sex in either direction, clearly on a ho3 regret moment - and he is like sure let me go immediately cater to your feelings let me go drop my money on you when I just hit it two days ago for nothing and we haven’t spoken once since… and he’s driving to go get her

you couldn’t even wait 5 hours buddy? 9am in France when you wrote this, gimme a break don’t the two of you work? Plausible deniability about having something else to do? Do you realize how bad you look. You look like you’re playing scared to lose her. Scared means lack of options and experience. That’s a stench that scares women off. also you just hit it why are you talking to her on instagram you look like a fbckboy

Today’s reminder that this site still has utility

for anyone observing the right answer would have been, wait until like, lunch, say sure come check out my place, bring a bottle of wine we can make something together

 

[Bigpapa]

It will be our second date btw. She called me directly home for first date. Red flag for LTR ?

If you went directly to her place for the first date, and now she was ok with you coming to her place to “pick her up “, then it means that she is not expecting you to actually take her out anywhere

go with a bottle of at least decent wine + really good chocolate / sweets, and tell her to grab a glass of wine first and then go to grab something to eat

then if you feel like going somewhere with her, do it, if not do not. But have sex with her before going out and when you come back, in case you decide to go out with her

if you think she is not LTR material, then for sure makes no sense to give her the idea that it might be more than whatever you guys currently are doing

 

[AhGonlum]

Makes sense, I can still say I have had emergy meeting at work and cancel the mini golf and go with a bottle to her place like at 20:00

 

[AhGonlum]

To be honest, she just is way above my wealth, we are looksmatching tho. But i could never afford what she is used to.

And I don’t know what vibes she is into, cause yes we ****ed on first date, I stayed at her place the whole night but we didn’t talked after that.
Monday : 1st date at her place
Wednesday : she asks to see me

i was like if I say to her « let’s see each other at your place again » maybe she will think i will just **** her and get bored

 

[Bigpapa]

To be honest, she just is way above my wealth, we are looksmatching tho. But i could never afford what she is used to.

And I don’t know what vibes she is into, cause yes we ****ed on first date, I stayed at her place the whole night but we didn’t talked after that.
Monday : 1st date at her place
Wednesday : she asks to see me

i was like if I say to her « let’s see each other at your place again » maybe she will think i will just **** her and get bored

Don’t overthink it bro

go there with a nice bottle of wine and tell her that you thought it would be nice to grab first a glass of wine after work and get to know each other a bit then go to grab something to eat

then you do your thing, then you can tell her to grab something to eat together somewhere with good food ( it does not matter the price, just the food has to be really good ). Then you go back to her place and do your deed again

in the moment you start overthinking it, you start to behave like an idiot and you loose your cool

sounds to me like you really like the girl and she likes you back, do both of you a favor and do not get into your head and destroy it with your overthinking

when in doubt, post here and quite sure that you will get helpful feedback from the people here

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

We going to mini golf. She is used to go to dinner I think..
she is very superficial, I doubt about LTR. But I think it’s better to propose smth out than saying let’s meet again at your place

She is very superficial? So why LTR her?

Also, if she is calling you constantly and trying to lead the pace and tempo, that could be a red-flag. Easy access to sex can actually be her way of setting you up for a controlling dynamic down the line.

You should be leading the pace and tempo of the interaction.

 

[AhGonlum]

So I keep seeing her at her basement, be less available, she will be attached somehow but never be her man

 

[Divorced w 3]

To be honest, she just is way above my wealth, we are looksmatching tho. But i could never afford what she is used to.

And I don’t know what vibes she is into, cause yes we ****ed on first date, I stayed at her place the whole night but we didn’t talked after that.
Monday : 1st date at her place
Wednesday : she asks to see me

i was like if I say to her « let’s see each other at your place again » maybe she will think i will just **** her and get bored

She fvcked you at her place on a straight up booty call. Classy broad

 

[AhGonlum]

She fvcked you at her place on a straight up booty call. Classy broad

Normally, when it’s just for sex, they don’t ask to see again that quick ( 2 days…) tho. What’s your explanation on that ?

 

[Divorced w 3]

Normally, when it’s just for sex, they don’t ask to see again that quick ( 2 days…) tho. What’s your explanation on that ?

Slow down, read what people say to you. It's already been answered. You seem very worked up on this.

Secondly, It's great this happened - take a deep breath and play the game better. You're under no obligation to respond immediately. The best thing you did was go quiet for 2 days, intentional or not.

 

[Solomon]

If a girl reached out like this OP it means she trying to get the pipe again, why move backwards? I get it if you like her and wanna do something nice then pipe but for me I love chicks like this, straight to the house, let's watch some Harry Potter, I'll make some food or delivery and she get the PANTHER in her ribs again lmfaooo

 

[Solomon]

She is very superficial? So why LTR her?

Also, if she is calling you constantly and trying to lead the pace and tempo, that could be a red-flag. Easy access to sex can actually be her way of setting you up for a controlling dynamic down the line.

You should be leading the pace and tempo of the interaction.

Nonsense, some of you guys are overanalyzing, what if the chick just wants the D?
If you ever put it down really good it's not unusual for a woman to want to see you again right away and get some more!
A lot of women complain about the "Orgasm gap" and for most women casual sex or ONS is not that good due to guys busting nuts to fast, or the lack of emotional connecton a woman has to the man and vice versa etc

Sometimes, some women just want the D again and don't want to *****foot around, it's 2026

 

[AhGonlum]

Ok guys, so I keep the mini golf cause this is fun even for me. I mean 10$ per person so it’s fine.
We will lead to her home I guess right away.

 

[AhGonlum]

And next week I will not be available at all