"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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had oneitis, got over it - now she likes me

Galaxy51

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damnit, why did this happen? I asked this one chick out a long time ago, after we flirted for a long time and became pretty good friends, but she said no I was like wow. so after that, I didn't speak a single word to her, she said hi to me a few times, I said nothing. I acted like she didn't exist. i felt a lot of tension because we ALWAYS talked and flirted, then that thing happened out of nowhere. we didnt speak a word to each other for 4 months. she'd even give me dirty looks sometimes.... So anyway I started dating this other chick and I've heard from people she's jealous, which I figured cuz when my girl came to my work I caught her with a really sad, jealous type look on her face. I liked her a lot too at one point, I finally got over her, and now this happens.

I dont know why, but when you built a flirty type friendship with someone and then for some reason you guys get into a huge fight where you dont speak to each other at all, it seems to almost really keep the interest level up, and makes you want that person more. that's the only thing I can think of. any ideas?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bradshaw

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Originally posted by Galaxy51
I started dating this other chick
I would suspect that this is the reason.

I had the same thing happen to me. Asked a chick out, she declined. Then I started dating a hotter girl and suddenly she won't leave me alone. If I wasn't dating the new girl I doubt she would have had any interest.
 

Porky

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She likes you because you gave her drama. If she ever confronts you and you guys have a shouting match and are able to make up afterwards, she will likely lust after you for some time.

With some girls, especially the attention *****s, drama = intense attraction. go figure:rolleyes:
 
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