"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Had enough of women for the time being

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Anyone else feel like this?

Being a DJ to me means more than women, it's about making the most of yourself.

I've just about had my fill of flakey, women who are just not worth the effort.

It seems to take a hell of an effort just to get a date with these skanks, who do nothing in return, whilst I don't like any of the women who want to be with me.

So I'm just about done. I'm concentrating on hobbies, writing, exercise, friends, and being the best at everything I can, and these hos can go whistle.


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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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me too. have better things to do than deal with lame ass chicks--at least till the first of the year.
 

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Cool. I'll just go fvck some bytches while you 2 are out of the game!
 

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Since when did quitting anything ever become the right choice?

Sounds like you guys just need to filter them better as the Anti-Dump posts suggest in the (new) DJ bible.

Chasing women should be FUN, not something to dread like a trip to the dentist.

New DJ bible

Don't be quitters!
 

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"Chasing" women? No way

Someone said chasing women should be fun ... ah, that's the problem, a DJ doesn't chase. They come to him.

I totally agree with the apathy post here because right when you don't care anymore, women come out of the woodwork. They're attracted to men who have their own lives and don't "need" them so desparately. That's the essence of DJism: Having your own life and not letting women control it.

I can't believe you got bashed for wanting to work on your own life. You should always be working on your own life and women should be the side dish, not the main meal. Some things are very important, more important than women and that is CAREER. I've seen a lot of chumps in jobs they hate who have women ... yet they're still unhappy. ALWAYS work on career, hobbies, and your own life FIRST.

You're on the brink of something great because of your sense of detachment.

Remember, don't ever chase women, that's a futile pursuit.

AFCs chase; DJ's attract.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Austin, sounds like you need some Multiple long term relationships

Afterall a man in your age needs some connection instead of chasing every 20 year old school girl you see fit:p
 

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Re: "Chasing" women? No way

Originally posted by WestCoaster
I totally agree with the apathy post here because right when you don't care anymore, women come out of the woodwork.
Your other posts make it seem like you have your head screwed on straight, but this... :rolleyes:

I have a nerdy friend who hasn't cared since high school... and the chicks don't want him. I personally have NEVER had it happen to me where I would "find" a chick when I was not actively working on it.

No dude, apathy = no chicks.

Originally posted by WestCoaster
They're attracted to men who have their own lives and don't "need" them so desparately. That's the essence of DJism: Having your own life and not letting women control it.
This has nothing to do with apathy.
 

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C'mon, apathy rules!

Not sure about your life short timer, but whenever I quit caring and give up on women I start getting more attention and more dates.

My best friend -- a total playboy when single -- completely quit caring for awhile, gave up, didn't care if he dated for awhile, and in 24 hours met his wife.

You can trash this theory all you want, but believe me, once you quit caring strange things happen. Remember, women want to fix you, get your attention, and MAKE you care.
 

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From the title of this thread, I thought you were turning queer on us....not that there's anything wrong with that.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have felt the same way alot of times, typically after a rejection. It's been that way even in the last few years when I've been in a LTR. I resign myself towards not doing well with any women and staying with the one I got for sure.

What is weird is when you give up, you take a bit of pressure off yourself and you do seem to run into more girls. Girls can tell when you got the hunting signs on, especially at places like bars. When you are relaxed and not trying to hard, you will be more likely to find them checking you out than vice versa.
 

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I don't know if it is just me, but I tend to cycle from DJ (including not caring about getting dates) to AFC ("why can't I get dates").

There's something to be learned there!
 

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One thing that has helped me on nights I appear to be bombing with most of the women I talk to, is to set a target.

Let's say I'm out with friends and going up to talk to girls (BTW, my friends almost never initiate convos with girls, so I'm always doing the legwork). If the first few groups of girls blow me off, I resolve myself to talk to at least 10 girls that night. Almost inevitably, I get a decent response from one or more of them.

THE NUMBERS GAME MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE. I can't tell you how many times some semi-decent girl blows me off, but then a hottie is extremely nice to me. You just don't know what you are going to get with these girls!
 

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Re: "Chasing" women? No way

Originally posted by WestCoaster
Someone said chasing women should be fun ... ah, that's the problem, a DJ doesn't chase. They come to him.

I totally agree with the apathy post here because right when you don't care anymore, women come out of the woodwork. They're attracted to men who have their own lives and don't "need" them so desparately. That's the essence of DJism: Having your own life and not letting women control it.

I can't believe you got bashed for wanting to work on your own life. You should always be working on your own life and women should be the side dish, not the main meal. Some things are very important, more important than women and that is CAREER. I've seen a lot of chumps in jobs they hate who have women ... yet they're still unhappy. ALWAYS work on career, hobbies, and your own life FIRST.

You're on the brink of something great because of your sense of detachment.

Remember, don't ever chase women, that's a futile pursuit.

AFCs chase; DJ's attract.
yep. chicks are low on the priority list right now. presently, i'd take a pass if an HB9 fell into my lap.

why do some of you have a beef with this? they're not the end all and be all to being a DJ.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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