"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Had a girl 9 years my younger say, "It's good to see you again."

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Buying interest? You know, I kino'd her about 2 months ago on the shoulder, and she did not like it obviously at the time as there were other people around. I didn't give a fvck. And to her "put-off" reaction, I remained upbeat, not reacting to her reacting, just smiling like I'd done nothing wrong to her.

Anyway, she's Very sheltered, still lives with her parents at 25/26 years old, tall, good body, face o. k., smart, traditional. She looks like she could really be always up for sex if this turned out to be long-term. I can just sense that she probably masturbates.

I'm definitely starting to get feelings for her in my d!ck, don't know about my heart yet.

I just said, "It's good to see you again too, [her name]." This exchange was at the end of our conversation.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Poonani Maker said:
I just said, "It's good to see you again too, [her name]." This exchange was at the end of our conversation.
People's responses are always on auto-pilot. Just like you responded to her, "Good to see you again" without much tought.

If you tell somebody, "You look great", they will respond "You look great too."

"I am glad to see you." gets a, "I am glad to see you response".

Is she interested? Probably not, but do you already have her digits? If not, then you're just an acquaintance who kinda creeped her out when trying to "kino her on the shoulder."

A better response would have been to add to the response you gave her. "Great to see you too [her name], let's get together soon.", and get her contact info. Her reaction will tell you a lot more about her interest in you than a "Good to see you", standard greeting.
 

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Also, I know her Dad and Momma, and both have pushed or encouraged her to get close to me, to date me. Last summer they gave me opportunities to be around their daughter, but WHILE picnicking etc, I kept my distance from her.
 

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ya what kingy said, you want to focus on the game but not let it dictate your life. live, learn, and have fun.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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