"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Had a fight with a good mate about women

Kravy

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Hi all

I was talking to my friend about what to say to this chick other day.
She said all these guys were hitting on her last night at a party and all our mates saying she is hot.

So obviously she knows she is pretty fine, just wants to increase her ego a bit more.

So i said to say, "yeh your pretty f$cken ugly" or something like that but in funny way and said it wont give her as much ego boost and you want be just there to give compliments to her and become her good chumpy friend.

He is known getting into good friends with girls aswell and know he wants this chick aswell.

He knows i read up on DJ forums and just thinks bullsh$t.

I said why you think im getting so maney chicks lately ? and he just fliped and went insane saying you think you know all this ****.

I said it makes sense, she looking for someone to tell her she is hot ,she already knows this d$ckhead and who better then you to give her that ego boost,

He's MR Nice Guy.

Is there anyway to get these people like this head right on track and not be such p$ssy, he's one of those real good mates ?

Sometimes feel like should just drop him, I got other DJ friends who are on same track as me and able to work and help each other like a family, able to go clubin and understand how each others work.


Just my 2 cents of b$tchin
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Caveman

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Lead by example. If they aren't asking you how you pull so many chicks, don't tell him. He's not ready. Guys need to realize first that what they've been doing up till now has not worked for them.

I don't see a reason for you to drop him though. Just don't talk about stuff like that. Use him as a videogame friend or whatever.
 

backbreaker

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the whole point of a neg hit, isn't to make them feel bad,it's to even the playing field. I mean, would you be attracted to a girl that called you ugly? I hope not.

Instead of saying that, saying something along the lines of "you could use some lotion couldn't you?" or "next time, you have to actually dress up when you go out to attracted the good men because I am not feeling your outfit"
 

rgeere

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Originally posted by backbreaker
the whole point of a neg hit, isn't to make them feel bad,it's to even the playing field. I mean, would you be attracted to a girl that called you ugly? I hope not.

Instead of saying that, saying something along the lines of "you could use some lotion couldn't you?" or "next time, you have to actually dress up when you go out to attracted the good men because I am not feeling your outfit"

Neghits have to have some sort of a positive outcome or it will turn the girl off...
 

Fatality

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Calling a girl "ugly" I think is going too far with the neg hit.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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evolvingnerd

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Originally posted by Caveman
Lead by example. If they aren't asking you how you pull so many chicks, don't tell him. He's not ready. Guys need to realize first that what they've been doing up till now has not worked for them.

I don't see a reason for you to drop him though. Just don't talk about stuff like that. Use him as a videogame friend or whatever.
bingo!

same deal happening with a friend of mine, except i'd love to get this guy on the track to Djhood wit me
anyhoo, i totally gave up about talkin to chicks with him, and then suddently he caught me with this chick (not real hot, but it's a start) and he's like, "who's that"
but i changed the topic, didn't wanna push buttons too quickly too early

just ride it out
 
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