"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HA! I Met Her Again At the Same Bus Stop

bfl

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haha! remember that thread a made about that girl that i met at the bus stop and i offered her a ride and she accept it, then i called her a few days after and i posted that convo?

Well today i was on my break and i was heading to the bank to cash my check and from far away i saw a girl standing at a busstop, now the first thing that came to mind was that it was her cause it was the same busstop that i met her at and same time.
So i pull over and i tell her "wasup" she looked as if she didnt remember or knew who i was (she had that look in her face) i think its cause i got a different car now. so i said "aint u such?" she said yeah then i said " dam u forgat about me already? im such" then thats when she said oh wasup.

So i offered her a ride and the samething as the other time happened we picked up 2 of her friends then i dropped them at their destination, and as she was gettin out she said " call me later" but ofcourse im not gonna call her today but im definetly gonna call tomorrow, not like last time that i was scare and nervous and i didnt call in like a week, i dont feel that way now.

So im posting this to get some tips from my fellow dj's when i call her tomorrow, (will be tuesday) is it too early to set up a date for the weekend? And what would be the best way to approach this phone call?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bfl

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well... feedback is appreciated
 

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wasn't your last thread asking the same question?
 

bfl

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yeah but i thought that this situation was kinda different since its the 2nd time
 

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there's a thread on this. For asking out it says only sun-wed for next weekend.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PRMoon

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ugh, call her whenever you want. It really won't make all that much difference. I mean she's been in your car twice now so I'd say you were at least aquaintences. Call her, breif convo, schedule a date, hang up the phone. It isn't all that hard and If you're confident then you should have no trouble pulling it off.
 
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