"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Gym work paying off or girl just drunk?

Eternal_water

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I've been going to the gym a lot recently I went 4 days in the last week, 3 of them in a row, and I get a lot of excercise outside of the gym as well.

And looking in the mirror I like the results. I've got myself a trendy new hairstyle too.

Anyway I was working at the club tonight when 2 girls come to my counter. One of them looks at me and tells me I'm hot. While I'm serving her firend she tells me I'm hot a couple more times and then asks me to kiss her.

She then grabs my face and kisses me instead and her friend starts cheering while watching us kiss. Then they go off into the club.

That kind of thing never happens to me, this is the first time I've kissed a girl since January, do you reckon thats the results of the gym work or that she was merely very drunk by then?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mike32ct

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The new hairstyle plus the gym is the reason.

Sure, her being drunk helps, but even drunk girls go largely by looks*.

Great job. You are absolutely on the right track.

*I really don't believe in the "beer goggle effect" on women. I don't think I've ever heard a woman say she had a drunken makeout or sex with an ugly guy. Even the most intoxicated females will focus on the hot guys.
 

Eternal_water

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Good, I prefer the gym reason, leaves it more in my power rather than random chance.
 

Ronaldo7

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She was obviously drunk.

You said this type of thing doesn't happen often. Drunk people usually repeat everything they say and this was the case with her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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