Gym game - how long?

[The LadyKiller]

For the past several years, I worked at a job where we had a gym inside the facility, so I kept my nose clean and only talked to friends and coworkers I already knew during workouts. But this month, I changed jobs and am using a public gym. And lucky for me, this gym has its fair share of HBs.

While my workouts are intense (I'm not walking around smiling at everyone) and my primary objective is keeping in shape, getting to know the HB8 next to me on the treadmill or the HB9 in front of me on the squat rack could be a good thing. My question to you is, how long should I be a familiar face at the gym before approaching them doesn't make me look like a creep? Ideally, they see me there every day and say hi or smile, but us guys are almost always the ones who make the first move.

 

[cola]

I personally have a no approach rule at the gym.
The gym much like work Is a place where you are to be productive.
For me she would have to approach me..

 

[Von]

I would have different approach to Cola but I do have the same philosophy.

Gym is like Work... you are there for yourself only and build yourself and futur... so you have to be approached!

However, depending on your gym setting... mine has a lounge where you can have breakfast,diner,lunch etc... in a cool setting and close to the outside pools etc... perfect to socialize.

So if you see a girl there I would approach her, in a friendly matter
Same for the guy (create a gym community)

Back to OP.... in the gym.. often I've complimented the girls on their skills or intense workout (stuff that even I wouldnt be able to do it)... I just nicely compliment and let it go... if a conversation emerge good. On around ew approach in 4 years AT THE GYM ground working out.. i've made 2 friends (girls) with whom I am going out at the Gym Gala

Never had a desire to ''seduce'' at the gym... but you shouldn't prevent it from complimenting and creating a social group

 

[skinnyguy]

Every single girl at my gym is there with a guy. Even the fat ones, who are getting trained by jacked guys.

The gym is almost as bad as OLD. The only way I'd approach is if I was at a yoga class at the gym and it was 90% women.

 

[wifehunter]

Every single girl at my gym is there with a guy. Even the fat ones, who are getting trained by jacked guys.

The gym is almost as bad as OLD. The only way I'd approach is if I was at a yoga class at the gym and it was 90% women.

Yep, chickies be swimmin' in schlongs.

So, unless you can sell ice to Eskimos. ...

go fish!!!

 

[Roober]

I would agree with others. I don't have a "no approach" rule, but I am certainly not going to put in any effort. Then if you do hook up with a girl, and it goes awry, you might lose the desire to go to your favorite gym. Ever heard of the "don't $hit where you eat" saying?

You are there for yourself, so keep it that way.

 

[The LadyKiller]

Appreciate the feedback. I agree with the points made here, but like Von said, I'm always open to expanding my social circle (what is a Gym Gala???). I'm pretty locked in on my workouts and am usually all sore/sweaty by the time it's over. I've been at this gym for under three weeks and haven't really spoken to anybody.

Honestly, I wouldn't feel comfortable approaching girls mid-workout at the gym. The type I would be into are locked in on their workouts too. Perhaps if one is next to me and we're both done with our sets, or if we're leaving at the same time I'll say hi, but aside from that it's not necessary.

 

[Von]

Appreciate the feedback. I agree with the points made here, but like Von said, I'm always open to expanding my social circle (what is a Gym Gala???). I'm pretty locked in on my workouts and am usually all sore/sweaty by the time it's over. I've been at this gym for under three weeks and haven't really spoken to anybody.

Honestly, I wouldn't feel comfortable approaching girls mid-workout at the gym. The type I would be into are locked in on their workouts too. Perhaps if one is next to me and we're both done with our sets, or if we're leaving at the same time I'll say hi, but aside from that it's not necessary.

You right, keep in touch to your program and shape.

Eventually, you will always see the same people if you follow a specific time zone... start talking to them or at least signals... they will likely with time open up to you and be gym buddies... however, dont expect everyone to be like that

Gym Gala? My gym is hosting a Gala (****tail, DJ, poker tables, food, celebrities hosting etc...) for the members and their guest... they expecting 1000 people to show up. My gym is making a party for its 30th anniversary in my city.. it does have 6 other sister gym in NorthAmerica in different cities which I can attend when i travel there since I am a member in my gym of the brand in the city.

So at this event... i'll be in classy suit, talking to other members of the gym.. making friends or meeting new people...

My gym do organize social events... outside of all the group class (swim, tennis, squash,zumba, basket etc...) and does try to have a ''social gathering feeling to it''

 

[exhausted]

Good question..
i am usually in monk mode at the gym as well as i hit it hard but at the same time at this age and so busy with work the gym at 730pm is my only social outing for the week really.

I say if you have been seeing a girl consistently over a month and have swapped smiles or hellos when in passing just start up a convo little by little.

Yet I don't do this ha..

 

[soulforge]

My gym is literally full to the brim with HOT woman.. Seriously I find gym game very difficult..

People in training mode are generally very focused, and not sure if a chick would appreciate being approached in the middle of a workout.

 

[MrAddiction]

My gym is literally full to the brim with HOT woman.. Seriously I find gym game very difficult..

People in training mode are generally very focused, and not sure if a chick would appreciate being approached in the middle of a workout.

Why do you care, what a chick might think? 1x1 of game: Thinking about what a chick might think only gets into your way of approaching girls. The saying comes to mind: let the ho say no. ;-)

 

[MrAddiction]

Honestly, I wouldn't feel comfortable approaching girls mid-workout at the gym. The type I would be into are locked in on their workouts too. Perhaps if one is next to me and we're both done with our sets, or if we're leaving at the same time I'll say hi, but aside from that it's not necessary.

There Will Never be a Perfect Moment for any approach. All the mentioned things are only buffers to not approach out of fear of rejection.