Guys with no freinds or social life?

[bigdaddyprimer]

Even if you are good looking how do you go about the dating scene. Or not just that but how would you even go about starting a social life? Where you can be going to bars and clubs etc often or at least at weekends.

Im stuck in a lot atm. Since I graduated I don't see uni people and rarely see my friends from youth or local as many moved away or got family now.

 

[NSX-R]

Join a sport , dancing lessons, theatre or something that you like.
There are many other people with common interests . Befriend them and use them to improve your social life.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

what NSX-R said. It would surprise you how many people there is in your situation, is more common each passing year lol. So you have a lot of chances to meet people that are looking for friends too.

 

[bigdaddyprimer]

I guess join clubs of some kind etc...or a job with many other people of same age etc.

When young I had so many options, house parties, clubs, bars, uni, mates etc..Now really a couple of mates maybe now and then.

Feel like going out alone sometimes tbh

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I went out alone this weekend it was almost epic, will be doing it more often. Even my friends with out girlfriends just stay in the house, its cold right now I understand, but sometimes you got to push yourself out of your comfort zone. Will be going out alone more often

 

[bigdaddyprimer]

I went out alone this weekend it was almost epic, will be doing it more often. Even my friends with out girlfriends just stay in the house, its cold right now I understand, but sometimes you got to push yourself out of your comfort zone. Will be going out alone more often

so how did it go? where u go? what happened?

 

[PeasantPlayer]

It went very well, went to the casino to start off. Lots of women there since they have a modest sized club in there and also a bar area dead smack in the middle of the casino, so ladies were a plenty. I was more focused on gambling then gaming up the females that were available there.

Next I hit up the strip club (creeper?) I was alone got myself a drink, chatted with some strippers, had a 30 minute conversation with one, then she asked if I wanted a dance. Since I was drinking I said no (I know my weaknesses) Went to a different area of the strip club got a few more drinks, I noticed this stripper eyeballing me while she was talking to 2 other dudes. I thought at first she just wanted my money, but I know the difference between I'm pretending to like you and get your money and "he's cute I want to get his money and bang him" Long story short got one dance from her and her phone number, talked to her for about 30 minutes then I went off to a neighborhood bar which had a DJ that night. Got to dancing with some females, ended up making out with a cute Dominican chick got her number, when she left I got some Italian chicks numbers and was dancing with her (she came with a BETA this limiting what I thought I could do)

Didn't get laid (I could of Dominican chick wanted me to come to her place, but it was in a bad neighborhood I declined)

All in all I had phone, no friends, didn't have to worry about out gaming them, jealousy, competition or cackblocking. I enjoyed myself and ended up meeting a couple cute women along the way.

 

[bigdaddyprimer]

Well u got started at strip club and that's a good idea. Done that before. If you go to bar/club sober it can take time to warm up. By time you left strip club you were drunk and more than warmed up and confident around the women so going to a bar alone at this point was easier for you.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Well u got started at strip club and that's a good idea. Done that before. If you go to bar/club sober it can take time to warm up. By time you left strip club you were drunk and more than warmed up and confident around the women so going to a bar alone at this point was easier for you.

Yup I was saucy, I don't drink much either, I do go out alone other times. Where ever you go....scan the place, feel the vibe, see where people are sitting, gauge their moods. And find a nice spot where you think you can talk to (potentially) a few women at the bar

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Strip club before is great especially if you don't spend a lot of money. You can get your juices flowing, look at them objectively and have a few drinks in simulated hedonism. It makes not blowing them out of proportion out of the strip club much easier.

 

[Groverz]

Go out solo

 

[Billtx49]

Ditto go out solo.
Make friends along the way. Be open to it, somewhat outgoing, and it will happen.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Go teach English abroad you useless millennial.