"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Guys with Indian Accents

Effington

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I was at an auto repair place today and the manager there had a thick Indian accent. I had some work done there before so knew them and they were pretty friendly.

Anyway, today I was in a very bad mood because they were charging a lot of money for something after I just spent a pretty penny a few weeks earlier for something else. On top of that, they made me leave work early to get there before closing, else they'd charge me a storage fee for the evening.

The manager noticed I was upset (in fact, the first thing I told him is I want my car out of here, I'm not spending any more money on this car). He called his boss and they decided they could knock the $475 bill down to $325, because I was a returning customer and was cordial last time. I said that was still too much, so we discussed other options, and consequences for not repairing, etc.

Anyway, what was strange about the entire conversation is that he was yelling the entire time, like he was mad. It sounded like he was ticked, but actually what was coming out of his mouth were very good negotiation tactics. I stuck around for about 20 minutes deciding what to do, and it appeared that's pretty much how he talked to everyone.

Have any of you ever encountered situations like this, where their voice clearly did not correlate with what they were saying?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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taiyuu_otoko

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might be a cultural thing. I used to have a taiwanese friend, and whenever I went over to his house, I always thought I was about to witness a murder,they were screaming at each other so much later I asked him what they were talking about, and it was like what time is dinner, and other mundane stuff.
 

schttrj

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hahaha.... ok, lemme start off by sayin that im an indian. well, i dont think it is any cultural thing but it is something that is very much to do with your environment and upbringing. if u talk with me, u would know that LOL. and yes, u find a creep in every society and a james bond as well!
 

spider_007

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Sounds like my boss - and he is born Canadian (for many generations)

I just think that there are some people who just can't control the tone of their vice as well - and don't realize how they come across.

I've had many arguments with my boss because of this. I thought I was being yelled at (something I don't particularly care for), but that was jus not the case.

And then I realized that he was talking to everybody with that tone (even his wife).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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