"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Guys with Indian Accents

Effington

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I was at an auto repair place today and the manager there had a thick Indian accent. I had some work done there before so knew them and they were pretty friendly.

Anyway, today I was in a very bad mood because they were charging a lot of money for something after I just spent a pretty penny a few weeks earlier for something else. On top of that, they made me leave work early to get there before closing, else they'd charge me a storage fee for the evening.

The manager noticed I was upset (in fact, the first thing I told him is I want my car out of here, I'm not spending any more money on this car). He called his boss and they decided they could knock the $475 bill down to $325, because I was a returning customer and was cordial last time. I said that was still too much, so we discussed other options, and consequences for not repairing, etc.

Anyway, what was strange about the entire conversation is that he was yelling the entire time, like he was mad. It sounded like he was ticked, but actually what was coming out of his mouth were very good negotiation tactics. I stuck around for about 20 minutes deciding what to do, and it appeared that's pretty much how he talked to everyone.

Have any of you ever encountered situations like this, where their voice clearly did not correlate with what they were saying?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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taiyuu_otoko

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might be a cultural thing. I used to have a taiwanese friend, and whenever I went over to his house, I always thought I was about to witness a murder,they were screaming at each other so much later I asked him what they were talking about, and it was like what time is dinner, and other mundane stuff.
 

schttrj

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hahaha.... ok, lemme start off by sayin that im an indian. well, i dont think it is any cultural thing but it is something that is very much to do with your environment and upbringing. if u talk with me, u would know that LOL. and yes, u find a creep in every society and a james bond as well!
 

spider_007

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Sounds like my boss - and he is born Canadian (for many generations)

I just think that there are some people who just can't control the tone of their vice as well - and don't realize how they come across.

I've had many arguments with my boss because of this. I thought I was being yelled at (something I don't particularly care for), but that was jus not the case.

And then I realized that he was talking to everybody with that tone (even his wife).
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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