"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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In2theGame

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Ive been going to a new gym for a while with a friend and its loaded with hot girls however i try to just keep my head down, my headphones blasted and my aggression high in the free weights section. My friend does sometimes mention that so and so girl is looking over at me and all but again, i try n focus on my workout. Ive noticed a lot of girls glancing over at me through the mirror but i never make a move, (yeah im a puss) anyway the main story is that there is this girl who ive seen recently coming to the gym and it seems where i go, she goes. She is pretty damn hot, Blond hair, very cute in the face and an amazing azz. the thing is, she is there with this guy, i dont know if he's a friend, her Bf, a guy whos training her or whatever. This week, i was working on dumbbell press and she came to workout right next to me, no big deal, then i went far off to the pull up/dips machine, she came to the pull ups section next to me, then i went far off to the triceps push down, there she came right next to me then finally i went over to finish some more chest workouts on the side bench and they walked by and started dumbbell curls next to me but shes with this guy. I started looking over and i never see him touch her or anything physical so dunno what the deal is there. Overall. Other girls do make it obvious, like walk slowly right by me and then back and forth glancing however this blond is sexy lol. What are your thoughts and/or have you guys experienced similar situation, should i start trying to get EC and see what vibe i get? advice?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If you're getting IOIs then why not give it a shot. I see some guys trying to hit on girls at my gym. I asked a few girls how they feel about this and they all said if he's cute and cool I wouldn't really mind.

Regardless they love the attention they're getting from all the guys there.
 

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I'm the kind of guy who does a lot of things by himself. I like being independent and doing things my way. And I've been around a lot of gyms and got to know a lot of good people.

My own rules of conduct at the gym:
- Be focused on yourself and YOUR workout
- No phones in the gym
- Finish your workout within an hour
- Don't be the smelly guy, be fresh!! (body,clothes & shoes)
- No headturning to see why some guy is making noises
- No 5-minute long breaks between sets or exercises. Keep busy.(stack/unstack weights, stretch or assist someone else)
- Be relaxed, like your all by yourself
- Don't avoid eye-contact. Acknowledge the people who cross your path.(And throwout that "hi" to the occasional HB)
- Avoid long conversations. Stay to the point. Simple comments are more than enough

That should make you a respected gym-member.

Now, for social success at the gym:
- Be among the top 10% of guys who are in exellent shape
- People respect those who make visible progress
- Get to know the people who work there by name
- Take some time (15-30min) after the workout to be social, especially if there's a bar or some kind of chill-out area. At first you'll probably just be drinking your post-workout shake, but just be open for conversation. Just not after EVERY gym session!!!

Don't be pawned!
By the way, if you're a younger dude some older guys will try to "correct" you by giving "advice". But they seldomly suggest anything valuable. Perform your exercises with perfect form. That way, you can quickly discard the bvll**** some guys try to spawn at you. For me it's either "Thanks" or "Thanks, I know what I'm doing."...*eyecontact* and going my own way.
Don't go try to explain them why you're doing what you do, unless they explicitly (and respectfully!) ask for an explanation.

To take it a little further... There's no excuse for lack of good form. When you're doing a new exercise look for someone who does it right and ask them for some feedback. Tell them how you want to perform the exercise and do a few reps. You get a few pointers to get it right.
 

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In2theGame said:
i try to just keep my head down, my headphones blasted
Terrible!
In2theGame said:
and my aggression high in the free weights section.
Good!
 

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dutchmaster said:
If you're getting IOIs then why not give it a shot. I see some guys trying to hit on girls at my gym. I asked a few girls how they feel about this and they all said if he's cute and cool I wouldn't really mind.

Regardless they love the attention they're getting from all the guys there.
Women love the attention they're getting from guys EVERYWHERE!

Here's Judge nismo's gym tips.

1. Design your OWN workout regimen. Find what works for YOU!

2. Girls at the gyms are there to work out unless you're in the top 10% of guys in tip top shape. Your game and personality won't make you look any better to women.

3. Go to the gym to work out, not to look at women. That's why I go to a different LA Fitness in Fulton County.

4. Don't expect to get a woman here.

Simply put.

Case closed.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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In2theGame said:
Ive been going to a new gym for a while with a friend and its loaded with hot girls however i try to just keep my head down, my headphones blasted and my aggression high in the free weights section. My friend does sometimes mention that so and so girl is looking over at me and all but again, i try n focus on my workout. Ive noticed a lot of girls glancing over at me through the mirror but i never make a move, (yeah im a puss) anyway the main story is that there is this girl who ive seen recently coming to the gym and it seems where i go, she goes. She is pretty damn hot, Blond hair, very cute in the face and an amazing azz. the thing is, she is there with this guy, i dont know if he's a friend, her Bf, a guy whos training her or whatever. This week, i was working on dumbbell press and she came to workout right next to me, no big deal, then i went far off to the pull up/dips machine, she came to the pull ups section next to me, then i went far off to the triceps push down, there she came right next to me then finally i went over to finish some more chest workouts on the side bench and they walked by and started dumbbell curls next to me but shes with this guy. I started looking over and i never see him touch her or anything physical so dunno what the deal is there. Overall. Other girls do make it obvious, like walk slowly right by me and then back and forth glancing however this blond is sexy lol. What are your thoughts and/or have you guys experienced similar situation, should i start trying to get EC and see what vibe i get? advice?

Like any normal person would do. Simply say HI and keep moving. If she continues talking fine. If she says hi back, keep it moving anyway. Eventually you'll either have a conversation or you won't. See if she expresses more interest after a simple "Hi" that day or in the future. Easy.
 

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I love it when I catch eye contact at the gym and force the look away as I smirk at them. Then I notice them checking me out out of the corner of my eye a lot as I continue working out...I get a good chuckle out of it...
 

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nismo-4 said:
Women love the attention they're getting from guys EVERYWHERE!

Here's Judge nismo's gym tips.

1. Design your OWN workout regimen. Find what works for YOU!

2. Girls at the gyms are there to work out unless you're in the top 10% of guys in tip top shape. Your game and personality won't make you look any better to women.

3. Go to the gym to work out, not to look at women. That's why I go to a different LA Fitness in Fulton County.

4. Don't expect to get a woman here.

Simply put.

Case closed.
Yeah I do the same. I see plenty of cute girls and they look at me too but I don't care really. I'm there to work out and so are they. I barely even take my headphones off for my friends, god forbid I do for some b!tch. I'm just so zoned in there. In my opinion just leave girls alone at the gym unless shes eye phuckin the **** out of you smiling nonstop every time you look over.

Nothing wrong with checking them out or using them as extra motivation of course though!
 

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Thanks for the input guys, im going to see what happens on Monday, if i notice shes around me again by "coincidence" then im going to maybe say Hi or something. As for the other responses, i do keep to myself and help my friend on a spot here and there, thats about it. The real "come on's" i have noticed however is one girl was working out in the free weights section, was looking at me through the mirror and walked over by me and stood standing there, i looked over and said 'oh sorry if im in your way" i thought maybe she was trying to get by me but then she just smiled and said "ohh uh no thats okay" then walked off and worked out by me. Another time, im doing triceps on the pull down and these 3 ladies standing there talking **** looking at me through the mirror. my friend said WTF is this **** lol, again im focused on my aggression on my weights. i caught a few glancing over but then look away quickly with a snobbish look, i dunno why. This is a new scene for me as i used to go to a local private bodybuilding type gym, it was run down and stuff with rock music playing and it was all bout getting a hard workout but joined LA fitness with my friend because they had a deal goin and for us to workout together, so now even though i just try to avoid it, i still notice the Hot girls with extreme camel toe tights.
 

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I don't know how it is in other states, but in Oklahoma, it seems that the hottest females usually go to the female only gyms or stick to the female only workout areas and the chicks who work out in the general pop areas are the fatties or old chicks (40+).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If you're getting massive IOI's such as repeated proximity and eye contact then go for it by saying hi.

Just don't be one of those creeps that cold approaches women in the gym. I was in the gym the other day running on the treadmill next to this hot raven haired woman. Some dipsh1t took the treadmill on the other side of her and was actively trying to mack her. I could tell by her body language and speech that she wasn't interested. The guy then left the treadmill after 10 minutes and said "I'll meet up with you later." It was so obvious and pathetic this guy was trying to pick up women at the gym and the woman was clearly not interested.
 

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Dust 2 Dust said:
If you're getting massive IOI's such as repeated proximity and eye contact then go for it by saying hi.

Just don't be one of those creeps that cold approaches women in the gym. I was in the gym the other day running on the treadmill next to this hot raven haired woman. Some dipsh1t took the treadmill on the other side of her and was actively trying to mack her. I could tell by her body language and speech that she wasn't interested. The guy then left the treadmill after 10 minutes and said "I'll meet up with you later." It was so obvious and pathetic this guy was trying to pick up women at the gym and the woman was clearly not interested.
It would have been even funnier if she had on an ipod! Why the hell do guys delude themselves into thinking a girl likes them even when they reject them?

But in Atlanta gyms, most women dream about a handsome hunk talking to her. But that usually doesn't happen because those handsome hunks have a lot of women already, so said women have ipods on to ward off the average joe. When the average joe gets the muscles and loses the fat, these women will be warm for you. When you're making visible progress, it's always good!
 

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It would have been even funnier if she had on an ipod! Why the hell do guys delude themselves into thinking a girl likes them even when they reject them?

But in Atlanta gyms, most women dream about a handsome hunk talking to her. But that usually doesn't happen because those handsome hunks have a lot of women already, so said women have ipods on to ward off the average joe. When the average joe gets the muscles and loses the fat, these women will be warm for you. When you're making visible progress, it's always good!
Actually, she was wearing headphones! She was giving 1 word answers to all the guys questions. It cracked me up watching this guy strike out.
 

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yeah gym game is not worth it, just focus on your workout and enjoy the view. I like to look at all the hot girls use them as a reminder of the reason I'm at the gym in the first place - other than the health benefits of course.

Nothing motivates me more than some hard beats and the seeing the hotties stretching :) but I've never talked to a girl at the gym i didn't know unless i had a question about something. I just use them for motivation by flirting through eye contact and checking them out. They all look too good in their yoga pants and short shorts and they know it. Plus every meathead there is blatantly ogling them.

Overall though i really enjoy going to the gym. The dudes are usually pretty respectful and chill, even some of the meat heads. The girls seem to respond well to me (mainly through eye contact) because unlike most guys there i dont act super macho or intense. In fact im more laid back and am clearly enjoying myself and the music im bumpin. If you want to try gym game id recommend having a similar attitude and showing that your an athlete not a meathead. Idk if this helps, just my thoughts as an experienced gym rat
 
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