Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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guys-what do u think guys askin ur gf out

joe45

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lets say a girl u like has a bf but she never tells u, then after a while u assume shes single- u ask her out-she tells her bf about how joe the guy in my psch class asked me out-what would u as the bf do-get mad, get jealous, what would u do. what do guys think and feel about their gf or the girl they are dating being hit on-this is not in the accompany of the bf or date of course-when the girl is alone or with her gfs.
also whne this happened what did u as the guy do. how can u even tell if she has a bf or not-just go right and ask i guess. i just don;t want to chit chat with a gal too long if i now shes taken-waste of time

are there any girl out there who date other guys even if they have a bf- i heard about it before. what do u guys think about these kind of girls.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by joe45
lets say a girl u like has a bf but she never tells u, then after a while u assume shes single- u ask her out-she tells her bf about how joe the guy in my psch class asked me out
' he has a good taste ' just like the above poster said ..... but if she keeps repeating it to you. You have to put a stop to it ....

' why didn't you go out with him ? '

watch her struggle !
 

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If she tells her BF it's likely in order to make him jealous, demonstrate her desirability and maintain some CONTROL. Also as a form of sh1t test to see his reaction and determine how much she can manipulate him/what level of control she has over him/if he has insecurity.

Don't worry about if she has a BF, just go for what you want. If she has a BF let her tell you. Maybe she is about to ditch him anyway. Maybe she will ditch him is something better comes along (i.e. YOU!). Chicks are always after the BBD (Bigger Better Deal).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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comic_relief

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Macavoy thats my line

we both have good taste in lines and women :p

it knocks women for a loop too because they never expect that response. Most guys are angry. I have seen it but us DJ's stick together and don't get jealous.

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It's her call. If he causes problems, and she asks me to step in, then that's when I get into the picture. But it's dumb to believe that your girl won't get hit on, especially if she's pretty. It's her duty to inform these guys that she's taken and to cut the conversation before it hits a certain level, not yours. If she entertains their gestures or invitations, then that's where she f'd up and you should cut off all ties with the ho.
 

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What AmIACF said. It's her duty to tell guys she's taken, and she needs to understand that.

But yeah, when a girl talks about her admirers, i don't bite the bait. I usually say something along the lines of 'did he look good to you? he's prolly a cool guy.'
 

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Originally posted by comic_relief
Macavoy thats my line
I didn't bother to read his post beyond the title as I knew your line from an earlier post, just didn't know who came up w/ the line.
 

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Originally posted by joe45
lets say a girl u like has a bf but she never tells u, then after a while u assume shes single- u ask her out-she tells her bf about how joe the guy in my psch class asked me out-what would u as the bf do-get mad, get jealous, what would u do. what do guys think and feel about their gf or the girl they are dating being hit on-this is not in the accompany of the bf or date of course-when the girl is alone or with her gfs.
also whne this happened what did u as the guy do. how can u even tell if she has a bf or not-just go right and ask i guess. i just don;t want to chit chat with a gal too long if i now shes taken-waste of time

are there any girl out there who date other guys even if they have a bf- i heard about it before. what do u guys think about these kind of girls.
A. If MY girlfriend is hit on by another man, and she tells him "I have a boyfriend" and he backs out, thats cool, he has great taste, stop and admire the goods, and acknowledge that a greater man than yourself is making her moan at 4am.

B. If my girfriend is hit on by another man, and DOESNT tell him, and accepts a phone number exchange, ect. Well, she is a wh0re, and If I find out, she is going to get SPIT on in public, hopefully in front of him. If he decides to defend her honor, well, it's Taylor-Hopkins 3.

c. If my girlfriend is hit on by a creep, and cannot accept it when she tells him "I have a boyfriend" and he wont leave her alone, or stop hitting on her, and she tells me, well, now it's time when things get personal. I will tell him, an inch infront of his face that I am the boyfriend, and he had better cut his $hit out, or he and I are gonna get to know each other real well. If he wants to be "Bobby Badd A$$, well, I hope he has Ricardo Mayorga's chin.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Re: Re: guys-what do u think guys askin ur gf out

Originally posted by JackPrescott
c. If my girlfriend is hit on by a creep, and cannot accept it when she tells him "I have a boyfriend" and he wont leave her alone, or stop hitting on her, and she tells me, well, now it's time when things get personal. I will tell him, an inch infront of his face that I am the boyfriend, and he had better cut his $hit out, or he and I are gonna get to know each other real well. If he wants to be "Bobby Badd A$$, well, I hope he has Ricardo Mayorga's chin.
This is lame. You should just befriend the guy instead of being an idiot. My girlfriend had a friend that was doing something like this. i went down there and befriended him. Now he won't hit on her because he knows me and knows that I am a good person.

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c. If my girlfriend is hit on by a creep, and cannot accept it when she tells him "I have a boyfriend" and he wont leave her alone, or stop hitting on her, and she tells me, well, now it's time when things get personal. I will tell him, an inch infront of his face that I am the boyfriend, and he had better cut his $hit out, or he and I are gonna get to know each other real well. If he wants to be "Bobby Badd A$$, well, I hope he has Ricardo Mayorga's chin.
I agree with comic_relief, that is lame and unnecessary. grow up slighly would you. Now if this guy started to physically threaten or scare you girlfriend..then you should get much more assertive.
 

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if a girl im with is exchanging numbers iwht other guys, i'll exchange numbers with other girls and that will be our kind of relationship...if she does that then she likely won't be someone cool enough for me to be too worried about losing
 
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