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lets say a girl u like has a bf but she never tells u, then after a while u assume shes single- u ask her out-she tells her bf about how joe the guy in my psch class asked me out-what would u as the bf do-get mad, get jealous, what would u do. what do guys think and feel about their gf or the girl they are dating being hit on-this is not in the accompany of the bf or date of course-when the girl is alone or with her gfs.
also whne this happened what did u as the guy do. how can u even tell if she has a bf or not-just go right and ask i guess. i just don;t want to chit chat with a gal too long if i now shes taken-waste of time

are there any girl out there who date other guys even if they have a bf- i heard about it before. what do u guys think about these kind of girls.
 

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Originally posted by joe45
lets say a girl u like has a bf but she never tells u, then after a while u assume shes single- u ask her out-she tells her bf about how joe the guy in my psch class asked me out
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' he has a good taste ' just like the above poster said ..... but if she keeps repeating it to you. You have to put a stop to it ....

' why didn't you go out with him ? '

watch her struggle !
 
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If she tells her BF it's likely in order to make him jealous, demonstrate her desirability and maintain some CONTROL. Also as a form of sh1t test to see his reaction and determine how much she can manipulate him/what level of control she has over him/if he has insecurity.

Don't worry about if she has a BF, just go for what you want. If she has a BF let her tell you. Maybe she is about to ditch him anyway. Maybe she will ditch him is something better comes along (i.e. YOU!). Chicks are always after the BBD (Bigger Better Deal).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Macavoy thats my line

we both have good taste in lines and women :p

it knocks women for a loop too because they never expect that response. Most guys are angry. I have seen it but us DJ's stick together and don't get jealous.

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It's her call. If he causes problems, and she asks me to step in, then that's when I get into the picture. But it's dumb to believe that your girl won't get hit on, especially if she's pretty. It's her duty to inform these guys that she's taken and to cut the conversation before it hits a certain level, not yours. If she entertains their gestures or invitations, then that's where she f'd up and you should cut off all ties with the ho.
 
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What AmIACF said. It's her duty to tell guys she's taken, and she needs to understand that.

But yeah, when a girl talks about her admirers, i don't bite the bait. I usually say something along the lines of 'did he look good to you? he's prolly a cool guy.'
 
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Originally posted by comic_relief
Macavoy thats my line
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I didn't bother to read his post beyond the title as I knew your line from an earlier post, just didn't know who came up w/ the line.
 
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Originally posted by joe45
lets say a girl u like has a bf but she never tells u, then after a while u assume shes single- u ask her out-she tells her bf about how joe the guy in my psch class asked me out-what would u as the bf do-get mad, get jealous, what would u do. what do guys think and feel about their gf or the girl they are dating being hit on-this is not in the accompany of the bf or date of course-when the girl is alone or with her gfs.
also whne this happened what did u as the guy do. how can u even tell if she has a bf or not-just go right and ask i guess. i just don;t want to chit chat with a gal too long if i now shes taken-waste of time

are there any girl out there who date other guys even if they have a bf- i heard about it before. what do u guys think about these kind of girls.
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A. If MY girlfriend is hit on by another man, and she tells him "I have a boyfriend" and he backs out, thats cool, he has great taste, stop and admire the goods, and acknowledge that a greater man than yourself is making her moan at 4am.

B. If my girfriend is hit on by another man, and DOESNT tell him, and accepts a phone number exchange, ect. Well, she is a wh0re, and If I find out, she is going to get SPIT on in public, hopefully in front of him. If he decides to defend her honor, well, it's Taylor-Hopkins 3.

c. If my girlfriend is hit on by a creep, and cannot accept it when she tells him "I have a boyfriend" and he wont leave her alone, or stop hitting on her, and she tells me, well, now it's time when things get personal. I will tell him, an inch infront of his face that I am the boyfriend, and he had better cut his $hit out, or he and I are gonna get to know each other real well. If he wants to be "Bobby Badd A$$, well, I hope he has Ricardo Mayorga's chin.
 

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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Re: Re: guys-what do u think guys askin ur gf out

Originally posted by JackPrescott
c. If my girlfriend is hit on by a creep, and cannot accept it when she tells him "I have a boyfriend" and he wont leave her alone, or stop hitting on her, and she tells me, well, now it's time when things get personal. I will tell him, an inch infront of his face that I am the boyfriend, and he had better cut his $hit out, or he and I are gonna get to know each other real well. If he wants to be "Bobby Badd A$$, well, I hope he has Ricardo Mayorga's chin.
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This is lame. You should just befriend the guy instead of being an idiot. My girlfriend had a friend that was doing something like this. i went down there and befriended him. Now he won't hit on her because he knows me and knows that I am a good person.

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c. If my girlfriend is hit on by a creep, and cannot accept it when she tells him "I have a boyfriend" and he wont leave her alone, or stop hitting on her, and she tells me, well, now it's time when things get personal. I will tell him, an inch infront of his face that I am the boyfriend, and he had better cut his $hit out, or he and I are gonna get to know each other real well. If he wants to be "Bobby Badd A$$, well, I hope he has Ricardo Mayorga's chin.
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I agree with comic_relief, that is lame and unnecessary. grow up slighly would you. Now if this guy started to physically threaten or scare you girlfriend..then you should get much more assertive.
 
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if a girl im with is exchanging numbers iwht other guys, i'll exchange numbers with other girls and that will be our kind of relationship...if she does that then she likely won't be someone cool enough for me to be too worried about losing
 
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