Master of the Universe
Senior Don Juan
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Good afternoon gentlemen,
It's been a long time since I've been to this board, but upon coming here again I've noticed that very little has changed. In fact, what I've realized is that something that's taught here is only going to make you a weaker person if you follow it to the letter. Let me explain...
First of all, do yourself and all the girls you meet a HUGE favor - stop PRETENDING to think so highly of yourself. I say pretending, because that's what it amounts to - pretending.
More specifically, I'm reading all these posts about guys complaining that this girl they met canceled a date, or didn't make a counteroffer, or didn't respond to their message. And almost without failure, the response from most people on this board has been that the person should Next the girl, and that the girl doesn't deserve their attention, or that the guy should tell the girl off, etc.
This is both counterproductive, and shows a great degree of low self-worth. Please note: if you truly are the prize, then you don't need to tell the girl that you are, and there's no way you can take offense to a girl canceling a date, because you would see it for what it is - that the girl is not disrespecting you or thinks she is too good for you. How could she? She doesn't even know you yet.
The simple truth is that at this point in time, she may be a little interested, but not enough not change all her priorities to accommodate you. But why in the world would you expect that of her? One encounter with you is not sufficient for her to place you on the top of her priorities. This takes time on her part, and patience on yours.
Without a doubt, one of the most important characteristic I've seen in any man that's good with women is an almost insatiable persistence. But it's not the persistence that the average person may have - wondering why the girl doesn't return phone calls, or why she canceled the date, and pursuing her out of a fear of loss. The truly successful person knows that he is the goods, but that the girl has not realized that yet. And he does not blame the girl for her behavior, because he realizes that there's no way she can realize this until she's hung out with him for a few times. Please understand that she is not disrespecting you - you just haven't earned that priority yet.
Here's an example from my personal life. There was this girl whom I was interested in. I asked her out over a year ago, but she declined. I just laughed it off, and every time that I saw her (one or twice a month), I would flirt with her and ask her out. One time she accepted my invitation, and then canceled. I never lost my cool, and still persisted. Finally we go out - almost a year after I first asked her out.
On our first date she told me that she loves me, and after that her coworkers told me that the only thing she ever spoke about was me. Persistence will always beat resistance as long as there was a shred of interest to begin with, and you persist without ever loosing your cool.
So guys, don't be so sensitive to a girl blowing you off initially. She's not blowing YOU off, because she has no idea who you are yet. Instead of acting like a "Man" and blowing the girl off, realize that this is just your ego trying to protect itself.
As one very attractive girl that I was making out with recently told me, if she went out with every guy that asked her out, she would have slept with half the guys in this city. Girls who are desirable have many guys after them, and they have to create a system to filter out the fake men from the real men - the real men know what they want and they go after it until they get it, or until they have come to a non-emotion conclusion that their time is better invested elsewhere. Either way, there is no emotions attached to that decision.
Master of the Universe
It's been a long time since I've been to this board, but upon coming here again I've noticed that very little has changed. In fact, what I've realized is that something that's taught here is only going to make you a weaker person if you follow it to the letter. Let me explain...
First of all, do yourself and all the girls you meet a HUGE favor - stop PRETENDING to think so highly of yourself. I say pretending, because that's what it amounts to - pretending.
More specifically, I'm reading all these posts about guys complaining that this girl they met canceled a date, or didn't make a counteroffer, or didn't respond to their message. And almost without failure, the response from most people on this board has been that the person should Next the girl, and that the girl doesn't deserve their attention, or that the guy should tell the girl off, etc.
This is both counterproductive, and shows a great degree of low self-worth. Please note: if you truly are the prize, then you don't need to tell the girl that you are, and there's no way you can take offense to a girl canceling a date, because you would see it for what it is - that the girl is not disrespecting you or thinks she is too good for you. How could she? She doesn't even know you yet.
The simple truth is that at this point in time, she may be a little interested, but not enough not change all her priorities to accommodate you. But why in the world would you expect that of her? One encounter with you is not sufficient for her to place you on the top of her priorities. This takes time on her part, and patience on yours.
Without a doubt, one of the most important characteristic I've seen in any man that's good with women is an almost insatiable persistence. But it's not the persistence that the average person may have - wondering why the girl doesn't return phone calls, or why she canceled the date, and pursuing her out of a fear of loss. The truly successful person knows that he is the goods, but that the girl has not realized that yet. And he does not blame the girl for her behavior, because he realizes that there's no way she can realize this until she's hung out with him for a few times. Please understand that she is not disrespecting you - you just haven't earned that priority yet.
Here's an example from my personal life. There was this girl whom I was interested in. I asked her out over a year ago, but she declined. I just laughed it off, and every time that I saw her (one or twice a month), I would flirt with her and ask her out. One time she accepted my invitation, and then canceled. I never lost my cool, and still persisted. Finally we go out - almost a year after I first asked her out.
On our first date she told me that she loves me, and after that her coworkers told me that the only thing she ever spoke about was me. Persistence will always beat resistance as long as there was a shred of interest to begin with, and you persist without ever loosing your cool.
So guys, don't be so sensitive to a girl blowing you off initially. She's not blowing YOU off, because she has no idea who you are yet. Instead of acting like a "Man" and blowing the girl off, realize that this is just your ego trying to protect itself.
As one very attractive girl that I was making out with recently told me, if she went out with every guy that asked her out, she would have slept with half the guys in this city. Girls who are desirable have many guys after them, and they have to create a system to filter out the fake men from the real men - the real men know what they want and they go after it until they get it, or until they have come to a non-emotion conclusion that their time is better invested elsewhere. Either way, there is no emotions attached to that decision.
Master of the Universe
