"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Guys, Listen to my experienced advice..

In2theGame

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I dont know how to start this but this goes out to my fellow men out there. Im in my lower 20's and im not old at all but i wish i could go back in time for the simple fact that i regret with all my beating heart, all the Puzzy i let slip through my fingers in the past 6 years. I felt i was on top of the world when i was in my late teens, I had a ripped body (6pack n all) I was KNOWN through out some local parks in my area for being awesome in basketball (given the nickname MJ...no BS), Girls called me Hot, Cute even gorgeous (when i had a ON night) and i was very popular with everyone, mostly basketball related.

Today, at this very moment, I am overweight, I havent touched a ball in a long time and i would make a huge fool out of myself if i tried playing the way i used to, i have a buldging tummy and i dont have that confidence walk and talk like i used to, girls still flirt with me but no where NEAR as much. As i was walking home from work today, i started thinking, *How did i let myself slip like this?* .. I passed by a girl who i used to talk to a while back, i had the chance to bang her, of course i didnt, she smerked at me but nothin else,, usually it was a "u want my panties?" look but hardly anything now a days.
Now all i do is go to work, come home and hear my cell ring, only to pick up and hear my G/F's voice "im gonna come over". I just sit and do nothing with her.

Bottom line guys, Dont EVER let yourself go. you will feel so down if you do. I made the mistake of letting myself go because i had a G/F. Another thing, if a cute chick is giving signs of letting you get in her wet spot, omg, by all means dont think about it! Go after it because you never know what will happen. My mistake? why didnt i go for it? Because my Ex and i were broken up and i felt so "sad". im disgusted with myself now that i think about how much Puzz i let slip through because of extreme AFC mentality. Anyway, If you have a G/F, hit the weights, keep in shape, stay in playboy mode "looks" wise.

As for me, I can't stay like this. I am hitting the weights hard and getting back to where i used to be. Sad thing, i wouldnt have to get "back" if i never let myself go. Hope u guys find this advice useful.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mjazz

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Good job for realizing this man, I used to be pretty ripped, then I stopped working out for like a year, lost everything and was skinny fat, then about a year ago, I hit the weights hard, perfect diet, BOOM im back bigger, stronger and more cut than ever. remember that training smart is better than training hard, smart and hard.. thats another story. The best site ever for this is forum.bodybuilding.com, go there introduce yourself and youll get advice on everything GOOD LUCK
 

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I hear ya loud and clear. The past couple months I got into an LTR and I stopped hittin the weights. I'm back now and still in the LTR after realizing wtf I was slipping into (complacency), but now I have another problem - I seem to be attracting pvssy more now BECAUSE I'm taken and they know it. Women.
 

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I have to say this post really touched home. I used to weigh 160 lbs (I'm 6' tall) and now weigh 195 lbs. I used to bike 2-3 times a week and lift weights 2-3 times a week. Now I use my weight bench as a clothes hanger and my bike's in neeeed.

Thing is, I didn't get a gf. I finished up college! :woo: :nervous: :crazy: :cuss:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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