alright i met this girl right when i got off the boat at the end of summer. we just clicked perfectly. shes 10 years older than me with 2 kids but that doesnt bother me at all. right before she met me she threw all her eggs in the basket for this guy who turned out to be a complete psycho. the relationship lasted only 2 weeks with the psycho. she meets me a few days later. she starts telling me later down the road that she feels resistance towards me and that i deserve more, she feels that all she's giving me is scraps, etc. she told me the age thing really bothers her and that she doesn't see this going anywhere, but still loves hanging out w/ me and loves spending time w/ me. she doesn't want to break up ,but the longer we keep going the more that she can't give me all of her and the age thing stresses her out more. What do i do here guys? everything was awesome in the begining and how do i get it back to that point? she makes time for me so i know she likes me. totally confused here. any ideas?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
guys i need help!!!!!
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Become scarce. You are something for her to do while she waits for the real deal to come into her sites.
The ONLY thing for you to do is to back off. Her real evaluation of you and her relationship with you will become very apparent.
You're new here. Have you read the DJ Bible and the Book of Pook?
The ONLY thing for you to do is to back off. Her real evaluation of you and her relationship with you will become very apparent.
You're new here. Have you read the DJ Bible and the Book of Pook?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Well honestly I think it's a huge mistake to get involved with her if you don't have kids and she does and you're younger than she is by a lot. Because eventually you're going to want kids of your own and she might not be into it.
But I would def throw everything out there and stop being the "AFC" and just say
"Listen, if this age thing is that big of a deal to you then we might as well call it quits now, I dont' have a problem with it and it's really making me think you have a lot of insecurities that you tying every other guy to me because of your age and kids."
Something a long those lines!!
I dated a girl a couple months ago that I had to just throw it out there like that because she wanted kids and I didn't I wasn't going to pursue something that had no future. So figure that out!!
But I would def throw everything out there and stop being the "AFC" and just say
"Listen, if this age thing is that big of a deal to you then we might as well call it quits now, I dont' have a problem with it and it's really making me think you have a lot of insecurities that you tying every other guy to me because of your age and kids."
Something a long those lines!!
I dated a girl a couple months ago that I had to just throw it out there like that because she wanted kids and I didn't I wasn't going to pursue something that had no future. So figure that out!!
5string
Master Don Juan
Listen to this guy^^^^^Atom Smasher said:
Single mommy plus two kids? Careful careful.
She just got out of a relationship with a psycho? hmmm
Lay low, and really think about WTF you are doing before you get emotionally involved.