"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Guys, I have a problem with being unable to fixate on just one woman.

Poonani Maker

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Because my former oneitis may be getting married and I don't care because she no longer looks good to me -- she's Really gettin old in the face (all sunk in now after only two years), I have no other woman left that I believe deep down in my GUT feelings that I could sustain an ongoing marriage with.

A woman can IMPROVE her man, and my last oneitis improved the heck outta me. I'm in my dream job, though difficult/stressful, and I'm happy on the financial side of things now. I'm NOT happy, however, in my relationship side of my life.

I have prospects, but they wanted ME 1ST and then I kinda wanted them. They're hot, no doubt, but my GUT says that I would NOT remain faithful to either of them if I married one of them. My eyes are in constant wander mode now that the former oneitis is off the hook.

I see one woman, and I wanta bang her. I see another and I want to bang HER. And on and on and on, my calloused eyes seek out variety.

My former oneitis is a wedding planner and well, she attracted me by her innate sensibilities and YEARS of experience around wedding couples. She knows "the dance" as well as anyone between couples and what DEEP love looks like. As such, I could not help but to FALL for her HARD. She had me in the palm of her hands And she knew it.

I guess I should look for wedding planner chicks now?? I should seek out chicks who's job it is to make arrangements for weddings? This entirely limits my search for the one to marry, but you've gotta have a target before you can hit it. Am I right or am I wrong?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How old are you? You seem to have some kind of fixation on marriage.

You say you have a fixation on ****ing every new girl you meet -- THIS IS NORMAL!!! Welcome to being a single man. Enjoy it as long as you can.

The fact you don't want to marry these girls, yet **** their brains means that you're HEALTHY. These girls should earn the right to marry you over a period of months or years of great sex, companionship and trust. There's no reason to be considering marriage when you've known a girl for such a short amount of time.
 

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"I see one woman, and I wanta bang her. I see another and I want to bang HER. And on and on and on, my calloused eyes seek out variety."

HAHAHHAHA, so funny dude. I know how you feel
 

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"I seen one woman naked, then... I wanted to see 'em all." -Ron White
 
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