"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Guys,how would you feel if a girl gave you her number without you asking for it?

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I gave a guy my number at it turned out he has girlfriend/not interested so I feel embarrassed and wonder if I put him in awkward position.


So how you feel if girl gives you her number but you are not interested in her?Would that make you feel uncomfortable or would be still flattered despite your disinterest?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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90% chance she isn't interested. Classic attention wh0re behavior.

Proceed as normal with the understanding there is a very good chance she won't go on a date with you.
 

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90% chance she isn't interested. Classic attention wh0re behavior.

Proceed as normal with the understanding there is a very good chance she won't go on a date with you.
Don't know if you read but I think SHE gave the number out. As this is the woman posting. As for your question OP, it's not that serious. If anything I would feel flattered and a little ego boost.

As for you posting here I don't know if you know but this is a men's dating forum. This is not to say you're not welcome here but that there maybe better communities out there for you.
 

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I'm always wary of a woman that gives me her number...in most cases I've found it doesn't turn into dates
 

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Don't know if you read but I think SHE gave the number out. As this is the woman posting. As for your question OP, it's not that serious. If anything I would feel flattered and a little ego boost.

As for you posting here I don't know if you know but this is a men's dating forum. This is not to say you're not welcome here but that there maybe better communities out there for you.
Yes I'm aware of that which is why I wanted opinions from guys point of views :)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Don't know if you read but I think SHE gave the number out. As this is the woman posting. As for your question OP, it's not that serious. If anything I would feel flattered and a little ego boost.
You would still feel flattered even if you are not interested in her?
 

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personally i'd feel lucky, then get cynical about it later, then proceed as normal and text her whenever and see how it goes.

it wouldn't be that big of a deal, but it wouldn't be a bad thing
 

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I'm always wary of a woman that gives me her number...in most cases I've found it doesn't turn into dates
If it is in person, off the the top of my head 2 out of 3 I got laid. 1 of them I dated about a yr.
The 3rd one I could have but failed with escalating.

You would still feel flattered even if you are not interested in her?
Yes it would probably make my week depending on how hot she was.
 

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I gave a guy my number at it turned out he has girlfriend/not interested so I feel embarrassed and wonder if I put him in awkward position.


So how you feel if girl gives you her number but you are not interested in her?Would that make you feel uncomfortable or would be still flattered despite your disinterest?
My first BPD girlfriend gave me her number first, I wasn't interested but we still managed to have a year long relationship and tbh if it wasnt for her I wouldn't become who I am today.

Has it happen again? Yes, If you sense shes interested in you, develop to casual sex but DO NOT get into a relationship with these girls.
 

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You would still feel flattered even if you are not interested in her?
As long as you're not ugly, yes I would be flattered. If you are ugly it would still be an ego boost nonetheless. However, however the guy feels doesn't matter at this point, he's interested and has a girlfriend.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You would still feel flattered even if you are not interested in her?
Most would. But most wouldn't over think it. I wouldn't worry about it. It really isn't a big deal
 

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Slightly awkward move. You could have just asked if he wanted to go out some time to gauge interest first, instead of straight giving the number; would have saved you both any awkwardness. You basically skipped a step, but no harm done.

Regards flattery, if it's not over the top nor persistent in the face of rejection, it is flattering. However, when a girl you're not interested in flirts persistently and unashamedly in front of others, it's just straight embarrassing; like, all their self-awareness goes out the window. Now that really is awkward.
 
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How often does that happen to guys? Of course us guys would feel flatterred! However, if he does not find you to be sexual with him or aesthetically pleasing, he wouldn't break up with his girl or cheat on her with you. If you are aesthetically pleasing, you must take more sexual initiative if you really do like him.
 

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Thank you guys for your responses.. The reason why I asked is I still run into him every now and then so I felt bad that I might have put him in an awkward position---It's my first time doing something like that. Additionally, he didn't directly reject me but he politely brushed me off by giving an excuse about how he broke his phone and lost my number yet he didn't ask for my number again. I got the hint from him and didn't offer my number again or push the issue.Then I looked him up on Face book only to find out he has gf.

I wasn't flirty or anything but I was friendly towards him prior giving my number out.I just handed him a piece of paper and said "text me sometime"
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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For what its worth a very progressive step

Don't be discouraged ....u were politely rebuffed and you didn't badger him..Women especially; and men everywhere applaud this confidence . Alls fair in love and war....but sound advice above, it can be fraught with danger as a random act.... Gauge interest if possible or, do n don't regret ...I take it as flattery when it occasionally happens to me....no harm no foul
 
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