"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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guys.. er I just lost my virginity

moneyisking

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yes, an occasion to celebrate by popping the champagne bottle and fireworks. I am 22 yrs old Asian guy who been in this forum for 3 years complaining about lot of bullshyt, but today, I lost my virginity. To be honest with you guys, I never acted anything differently or felt anything differently. I worked again serving tables, walking through the day of my life slightly pissed off and disappointed at myself for my lack of woman. Then I come back home and my friends and she is chilling out. Again to be very honest, I don't even know what the hell that I did that made her decide "ok, I am fvcking this guy." She just seemed very into me to begin with, so I guess it is true whoever said "if a girl wants to fvck you, she will make things easy for you".

It first started out in my room. we escalate quick and clothes come off and she is sucking my c0ck. I don't know guys but it didn't get up. She sucked and sucked but it wouldn't get hard. Also, *******s are overrated (at least from what I had). I didn't feel as good as jerking off with my hand. Anyways, we move scenery to the pool and we get in the pool, make out, she sucks the ****, and we fvck. Losing my v-card in a pool, her blowing me under water, and no condoms used, I might be too lucky I don't know what tomorrow is going to hit me. Funny though, I didn't come. She kept trying to make me come (b/c I made her come like 4 times according to her) but I just couldn't. Maybe due to last night's jerk off maybe? Everything ended well and it seems like I left her wanting more (prob b/c she couldn't make me come).

Well, I always thought that sex was super great and awesome, but I kinda know what my brother meant when he said "once you had sex, you will feel 'this is it?'" But I can't complain. I am glad to not be a virgin.

If yal want more details, I will post some more but i gota hit the sack. I am tired as hell right now. Cheers mates. Never could've done it without you guys.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A chick that can hold her breath and give a BJ under water?

Marry her.
 
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Bro!!! i think what it is you are too accustomed to your hand instead of a woman's touch.. plus jerking off the night before also is a factor. Overtime your body will adjust to a woman's touch instead of your hand.. I hope this makes sense..??? and then it will feel good..

Good luck.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Heh, so you didn't have to do anything but be there?

Congrats.

And that my friends is why it's called getting lucky.
 

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^ I knew that was coming lol
 

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lol I knew someone was going to come up with that song. thanks everyone, and thanks to all the don juans that have payed ample amount of attention to me when was down. thank you guys. sure feels great
 

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Moneyisking:

The first time you have sex, almost universally from what I've experienced to what everyone else I've ever hung out with has also said, is not like hollywood makes it out to be.

The reason you couldn't get hard was because you were uncomfortable with the situation. As a virgin, it was new for you. It was something that gave you anxiety before. And still does. Your body, for all it knows, feels like it's in danger - and danger is dead LAST on the list of times you will get boners.

Same reason you didn't come.

The reason that you can get hard whackin' off is because you're comfortable and safe in that setting.

Solution: have more sex. You'll get used to it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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moneyisking said:
lol I knew someone was going to come up with that song. thanks everyone, and thanks to all the don juans that have payed ample amount of attention to me when was down. thank you guys. sure feels great
Dude did you do anything to have sex with her or did she just throw herself at you?
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
Speak for yourself, bro.

I get danger boners all the time.
Not everyone has a monster dong and magnum condoms, Mantis... haha.
 

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@maxtro: I consider myself pretty cool guy even though I didn't have sex... oh wait, can't say that anymore. Even before I lost v-tag I was cool guy. I just had hard time and kept all inside, but I didn't have problems with being normal, so so cool dude. That's what I did that night. I never expected anything to happen, but I started drinking, and initiated small kinos, then talked little dirty (not too much) and bullshytted her around that got her laughing. then plus the fact that I am a bike rider and tight body (according to what she said), and also the fact that she told me that her boyfriend is a pvssy, I guess all added up for my favors. I mean, I don't expect this little experience to make me a womanizer or anything, but sure does make a whole lot of difference. But yeah, she did kinda was more forward after I did everything correct.
@loveshogun: bro I personally thank you for trying to help me out while I was depressed to point of suicide; plus you being a asian player makes things more hopeful for me too. I kinda agree with your point. I didn't feel too nervous or anything, but maybe my penis was lol who knows. You are right though, i juts need to fvck more and beat my meat less.
@gspshields2: it was a white girl.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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