"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Guys asking for analysis of their problems...
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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IRT Mindset... seeking validation for what they think...I think it's the wrong mindset. You should be seeking to understanding what you did wrong by yourself, and plain accepting the fact that sometimes it just wasn't going to happen, period, end of subject.
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This stuff might sound simple on paper but in reality its a process to learn how to dress well, how to conversate fluidly, how to have an interesting life both you and others really enjoy, how to avoid being overly logical/too serious, and how to stope automatic negative thoughts from taking over.
Mostly I don't comment on specific questions about specific women.. very rarely will you find me doing that. I try to give advice on how to improve in *general* rather than how to try an improve one specific situation with one specific person whom the guy is (usually) not even really involved with in any meaningful way.
I think we're cut from the same cloth. I agree strongly with what both of you guys have said. I think if you can get the 'general' (mindset) right you drastically reduce the 'specific' problems.everywomanshero said:Mostly I don't comment on specific questions about specific women.. very rarely will you find me doing that. I try to give advice on how to improve in *general* rather than how to try an improve one specific situation with one specific person whom the guy is (usually) not even really involved with in any meaningful way.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Oh it's not about fighting trends. We're just making observations here.Cod3r said:Only a few people on here are even serious about real success, most just want their oneitis girl to notice them... that's the use of the forum and enough people help out, so it continues... don't fight the trend
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Yes. Absolutely. But at least they're acknowledging they have a problem. It'll take them a while to discover what that problem is...even if you tell them, they won't hear it until they want to.Ripper said:Does anyone else think that guys who detail all their problems here wondering if they made the right moves and what her actions meant, have, on a fundamental level, the wrong mindset for attracting girls/women?
Yes, you're quite right. I guess to rephrase slightly, I feel that guys asking for analysis is an indicator that they have not yet achieved true self-confidence. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Hell I was like that for a few months always questioning what girls were doing. I think though that when we're truly confident and happy we simply don't think about girls and related problems. Certainly not nearly as much as the AFC days.vorbis said:well this is a "discussion board". Its all very well posting abstract comments about living your life and becoming more confident. For most peope that takes time and effort. If someone comes across a situation where they're unsure how to proceed then asking for advice can help give them an idea.