"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Guys asking for analysis of their problems...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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IRT Mindset... seeking validation for what they think...I think it's the wrong mindset. You should be seeking to understanding what you did wrong by yourself, and plain accepting the fact that sometimes it just wasn't going to happen, period, end of subject.
everywomanshero
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This stuff might sound simple on paper but in reality its a process to learn how to dress well, how to conversate fluidly, how to have an interesting life both you and others really enjoy, how to avoid being overly logical/too serious, and how to stope automatic negative thoughts from taking over.
Mostly I don't comment on specific questions about specific women.. very rarely will you find me doing that. I try to give advice on how to improve in *general* rather than how to try an improve one specific situation with one specific person whom the guy is (usually) not even really involved with in any meaningful way.
I think we're cut from the same cloth. I agree strongly with what both of you guys have said. I think if you can get the 'general' (mindset) right you drastically reduce the 'specific' problems.everywomanshero said:Mostly I don't comment on specific questions about specific women.. very rarely will you find me doing that. I try to give advice on how to improve in *general* rather than how to try an improve one specific situation with one specific person whom the guy is (usually) not even really involved with in any meaningful way.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Oh it's not about fighting trends. We're just making observations here.Cod3r said:Only a few people on here are even serious about real success, most just want their oneitis girl to notice them... that's the use of the forum and enough people help out, so it continues... don't fight the trend
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Yes. Absolutely. But at least they're acknowledging they have a problem. It'll take them a while to discover what that problem is...even if you tell them, they won't hear it until they want to.Ripper said:Does anyone else think that guys who detail all their problems here wondering if they made the right moves and what her actions meant, have, on a fundamental level, the wrong mindset for attracting girls/women?
Yes, you're quite right. I guess to rephrase slightly, I feel that guys asking for analysis is an indicator that they have not yet achieved true self-confidence. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Hell I was like that for a few months always questioning what girls were doing. I think though that when we're truly confident and happy we simply don't think about girls and related problems. Certainly not nearly as much as the AFC days.vorbis said:well this is a "discussion board". Its all very well posting abstract comments about living your life and becoming more confident. For most peope that takes time and effort. If someone comes across a situation where they're unsure how to proceed then asking for advice can help give them an idea.