"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Guy hitting on girl I am dating

xenten

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Hi. I haven't posted here in awhile. Me and this girl have been dating for about 4.5 months and she really likes me. We are not significant but she says she doesn't want to date anyone else. I am not interested in anyone else at the moment but just don't wanna be in the relationship category. One of her friend friend, has been hitting on her. This happened almost a month ago but he quit. It has started up again today. I am not gonna go as low as fighting someone but I need to put a stop to this guy. I don't ever see him so I thought of just sending a message saying, "I know what you're trying to do with girl a and I don't appreciate it. You need to stop it." I figure I could try this and if it doesn't work do something else. She knows how I feel about it and wouldn't mind giving me his number to do this. I don't appreciate this and would like to put it to a stop.

The message he sent today said "I would like to get to know you better cause I think you're fun to be around."


Thanks in advanced for the help, if any.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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justiceseeker

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JMooney5115 said:
Hi. I haven't posted here in awhile. Me and this girl have been dating for about 4.5 months and she really likes me. We are not significant but she says she doesn't want to date anyone else. I am not interested in anyone else at the moment but just don't wanna be in the relationship category. One of her friend friend, has been hitting on her. This happened almost a month ago but he quit. It has started up again today. I am not gonna go as low as fighting someone but I need to put a stop to this guy. I don't ever see him so I thought of just sending a message saying, "I know what you're trying to do with girl a and I don't appreciate it. You need to stop it." I figure I could try this and if it doesn't work do something else. She knows how I feel about it and wouldn't mind giving me his number to do this. I don't appreciate this and would like to put it to a stop.

The message he sent today said "I would like to get to know you better cause I think you're fun to be around."



Thanks in advanced for the help, if any.
Why do you have to tell him? Doesn't her mouth work? She's a big girl, if she doesn't like him hitting on her she can tell him.
 

AKA FLEX

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justiceseeker said:
Why do you have to tell him? Doesn't her mouth work? She's a big girl, if she doesn't like him hitting on her she can tell him.
Agreed. He will come out looking better than you if you send him some tough guy, threatening message. Act confident, play it off like it doesn't bother you. The security you show will be attractive to her.
 

Jitterbug

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Hang on, if you don't want to be in a relationship with this girl after 4.5 months, why are you behaving like you two are exclusive?
 

jafyk

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Oh oh here comes to jitterbug to send some jitters down your spine. Do I sniff a non commital kinda guy here? I think somebody wants to keep a damsel all to himself.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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